It’s BACK; The Self Improvement Gifts Giveaway 6.
Have I got some exciting news for you today! It’s BACK!
I want to let you know about a Self Improvement site that will allow you to download 100’s of self help gifts, including mine! And yes…it is absolutely FREE!
Yep, you heard me right…for FREE!
All you have to do is go here: http://selfimprovementgifts6.com/go/1203
So, if you have found yourself going round in circles time and time again just trying to improve things in your life, but find yourself getting nowhere fast, then I’m pleased to tell you that it is now easily within your reach to change things during 2012.
HOWEVER, just like anything in life there is a downside here – BUT don’t panic because if you act fast you won’t miss out.
The Self Improvement Gifts Giveaway 6 hosted by Stephanie Mulac, Carolyn Hansen and Dr. Joe Rubino will only be open for a VERY LIMITED TIME… only a few weeks in fact!
So if you are serious about making 2012 the BEST year ever, then you need to jump on board as soon as the event opens on the 5th of January. (HEY,THAT’S TODAY!)
Don’t delay because the doors close for good a few weeks later.
Here’s just a small sample of the 100s of gifts that are available for you to download instantly once the event goes live:
* Affirmations For A Wealthy Mindset Audio – Elaine Lockard
* Rewire Your Brain For Success – Gene Anger
* Self Care For Body & Mind – Mari Lyn Harris
* A Beginners Guide To Running – Paul Klein
* Millionaire Goal Setting Secrets – Amanda Stephen
* Create Your Own Self Improvements Products – Keith Purkiss
* And Much Much More!
If you are ready to start the year off right, which I’m sure you are, and tackle EVERYTHING that is holding you back from moving forward in life, or if you just want to change things because you are looking for a sense of inner peace, then you need to go here RIGHT NOW:
http://selfimprovementgifts6.com/go/1203
You know, this is the 6th Self Improvement Gifts Giveaway event and each year it just gets BIGGER and BETTER!
This REALLY is the largest collection of POWERFUL self help and personal growth gifts you will find on the Internet EVER!
Before you go I just have one question for you…
Now that you know about this potentially life changing giveaway, are you going to make the most of the opportunity, or are you going to sit back and let 2012 be a repeat of 2011?
The choice is yours, but I know what I’m going to do and that is FIGHT BACK and live life the way I want to….Are you with me?
Hope to see you there :)
To your hopes, dreams and possibilities,
Deborah
http://selfimprovementgifts6.com/go/1203
P.S. By the way…Now that you’re ready to life your life YOUR WAY…you still have time to take advantage of the 40% off sale on BOTH of the Mastermind Groups. So this year gather and conspire with your fellow women of a certain age and make life your way happen!
P.S.S. The entire 5 week Adventure Fest Boot Camp Mastermind including all the weekly strategies, helpful tools, suggestions sheets with tons of ideas to pick and choose from and spark your creativity, email support on our private password protected community page that I will administer as well as a group weekly community call that I also administer is less than $18.00 a week! OR the 3 month Mini Mastermind for $15.00 a week!! Take advantage of this Fabulous Sales… Join us…the second half of your life should be fun!
Important Note for The New Year!
Happy New Year!
Well, here it is! A brand new year…”2012” has finally arrived and with it the opportunity to ‘start anew.’ Even though anytime is the right time for a new beginning there is something symbolic and special about the beginning of a new year. To me it feels like receiving a brand new journal filled with empty pages and a set of colored pens!
Yesterday I stopped into a restaurant to spend a little time alone pondering the forthcoming year. With my new journal and pens in hand I found myself busily scratching out notes and ideas for the year when it occurred to me there was an interesting slogan on the drink cup I was mindlessly staring at…
It said:
“HALF FULL…HALF EMPTY…
EITHER WAY, IT’S TIME FOR A REFILL.
JUST THE WAY IT IS”
As I began to think about this slogan I took a little time to review my notes and discovered something interesting. Nowhere in my notes was there any mention of Self Nurturing and Taking Time to Replenish.
It’s such a common thing we all do, isn’t it? And it’s such an essential step in creating a life full of meaning, joy, and abundance. Yet we seldom remember to include it in our plans or consider it a goal that needs to be written down on our ‘goals list.’ So many times it winds up be considered later or separately…you know, when all else is accomplished or at least well on its way.
This surprised me most because it is one of the bigger subjects we discuss in both of the Mastermind Mentoring Groups I host and several of the strategies we work on are about this very subject! It is so ingrained in us. Many of us have spent the bulk of our lives neglecting ourselves focused on taking care of everyone and everything else even the thought of self-nurturance results in feelings of guilt.
So for those of you who are in the midst of planning your New Year…I hope you will make it a point to include discovering and satisfying your own needs and desires on your list. Not only will your life be fuller and more joyous, your friends and loved ones will reap the benefit. Make yourself a priority! You will have so much more to give others!
So here’s to you…your hopes, dreams and possibilities.
There are Great things to come!
It’s going to be an amazing 2012!!
Deborah
P.S. Anyone interested in exploring your possibilities in a Mastermind Mentoring Group…THE 40% OFF SALE HAS BEEN EXTENDED TO JANUARY 10, 2012! If you’re interested in a little preview join us on January 6th, 2012 for “How to Get a New Perspective on the Rest of Your Life” Teleseminar/Discussion. These discussions are always intimate, open and inspiring! Join us!
Holiday Stress – The Real Reason You Feel It and How to Avoid It
Cultures around the world have their own special days and ways of expressing gratitude for all that is good in their lives and recently most of us who live in the United States celebrated ours; Thanksgiving.
Now that the food has been cooked and eaten and we have taken the time to share our love and thanks with our friends and relatives the whirlwind of holiday parties and duties begins.
HOLIDAY STRESS
This is a joyous time for most of us and the anticipation intensifies as neighborhoods and malls explode with holiday lights, decorations and magic. I love the holiday season but it can also bring with it a lot of stress.
I have often thought the reason for the stressful feelings everyone seems to experience was due to additional duties, shopping and of course the constant commercials encouraging us that bigger, brighter and more is the key to holiday joy! But according to Ronald Nathan, PhD, Clinical professor at Albany Medical College in New York the real culprit might be our own memories:
“When we think about the holidays, we dwell on the past and what went wrong, or we romanticize it and make it impossible to re-create,” he says.
I think it is particularly relevant to those of us in midlife and beyond. At this stage in our lives chances are good that our holidays will be different than they used to be. Our children might be away at school or married and in other locations creating their own traditions. Perhaps we have downsized and those nostalgic memories of giant gatherings and parties we once hosted are not realistic or even as appealing in our new digs.
Yes, I believe it’s the memories that can be confusing. Different does not necessarily mean not as good but it does require us to let go of what once was; which can be easier said than done. Consider the three agreed upon stages of transition:
1) The ‘letting go’ phase – experiencing the ending of something that we knew
2) The neutral zone – the time between when you let go of something and become comfortable with the new. This is also referred to as the transitional time.
3) And beginning anew – the final stage of change. When you know you have moved on. You have left the old behind and made the necessary adjustments to move forward in a healthy way.
Each of us goes through the stages of change in our own time and for me a giant step in the letting go phase came with my recent realization that I no longer own a Christmas Tree! Yikes, that is a little bit of an awakening and yet for some strange reason I saved all of my treasured tree ornaments. It may sound trivial to you but in my world it’s an enlightening moment. You see when I moved and sold ‘everything’ I made the conscious decision to sell my tree but now that it is my first holiday without the tradition of decorating and putting up the tree…I know I don’t have a tree. What was once a big symbolic part of the season for me is gone; changed.
As I watch my daughter from my present perspective stress over the fact her tree is up but not decorated, planned gifts for her children are already out of stock, outdoor lights on white wire are sold out and will have to be ordered and it is only the first week in December, I think I can say I am ready to let go of that part of my life! I am not saying I won’t ever own or put up a Christmas tree again but I now realize I am ready to create new traditions that fit my new life; and that’s a good thing.
We all create a great deal of angst when we put our focus on the past and what we don’t have. Practicing the ‘attitude of gratitude’ and taking the time to notice and appreciate what we do have can truly transform our viewpoint.
In my case, I may not have a tree this year to place all those treasured ornaments filled with memories of the past and I’m not certain when or even if I will want to again. On the other hand, I am in a fresh new environment surrounded by those who are most important to me at a very special time of year; and yes that is a very good thing.
However you celebrate this season I hope you remember to focus on life’s gifts within any challenges you might experience and try not to stress over the perfect dinner, gift or holiday decorations! I wish you the warmest and happiest of Holidays!
Thanksgiving and the Holiday Attitude of Gratitude
Too Pretty to Eat!
In a matter of a few days it will be Thanksgiving . That special day when we gather our families and loved ones together and celebrate all that is good in our lives.
We all have our traditions; watching the parades, the camaraderie of cooking the feast in a kitchen with way too many cooks in it and visits from friends to toast the season and share some pie. For most of us it’s a special day filled with families, loved ones, pleasant thoughts and warm feelings of gratitude.
Practicing gratitude has long been known as a key to happiness. Study after study shows those who are in the habit of giving thanks for all they have on a regular basis have more positive attitudes and achieve greater success in their personal and professional lives as well as better health.
Given all the benefits why is it we can’t seem to maintain these feelings throughout the year? Wouldn’t it be nice to bottle these feelings and take a small dose of it daily?
Well actually that is not as farfetched as it sounds. By making a few small changes in the way we look at things and committing to putting more emphasis on the ‘good’ that occurs in our daily lives we all have the opportunity to sustain a more positive outlook and attitude. It’s simply a matter of practice and creating a new habit.
There are many things in each of our days to be grateful for if we only take the time and effort to look for them. Here are a 3 easy ways to help you get in the habit of noticing them:
1) The Gratitude Journal: This is not a new concept but I believe it’s the simple things that make the biggest difference in our lives. Pick up a little notebook and make small daily lists of the things you are grateful for. It can be as simple as receiving an unexpected phone call from an old friend to someone who supported you at a time when you needed help. This doesn’t mean your day will be perfect. But if you take the time to look for the good things that occur there are far more of them in your day than the momentary problems you might encounter. Keep this where you can see it and it will remind you to think positively.
2) The Rewrite Strategy: There are times when we may be going through a particularly trying time and we may find it difficult to find the positive in a daily way. As we hurry through our day and duties it is easy not to notice our negative statements. This exercise is a great way to become more aware of what we are saying to ourselves and others. Try this! It’s a great way to shift your attitude!
- Take a sheet of paper or you can do this on a page of your journal if you are keeping one and draw a line down the center of the page to make two columns.
- During the day write down any negative statements you find yourself making on one side of the column.
- At the end of the day on the other side of the column rewrite each of the negative statements into a positive statement.
3) Appreciation Token: Nothing is as rewarding as extending a kind gesture to someone, particularly if it is unexpected. Here’s a really FUN and AFFORDABLE ($5.00!) way to give thanks and spread gratitude. I discovered this site and just had to share it!
http://www.tofa.us/ Spread gratitude and appreciation in the world with this trackable gratitude coin. A token of appreciation that simply says “Thank you for making a difference in my day”.
There are many things to be grateful for: the first cup of coffee in the morning, slipping your feet into well worn slippers after a long day, people who love you no matter what, grandchildren who squeal with delight and jump into your arms when they see you, a long chat with an old friend, the opportunity to help someone who needs it without being asked, chocolate covered almonds, pets who warm your life…always and unconditionally, hitting every green light when your late, leisurely watching a sunset, fresh cut flowers, laughter.
Gratitude is taking the time to notice what is special in the most common of occurrences and then taking the time to appreciate it. What’s on your list?
P.S. If you think sunshine brings you happiness, then you haven’t danced in the rain. ~unknown~
By the way…the 21 day Attitude Adjustment Course is NOW on SALE - HALF PRICE!
The Dirty Little Secret and a Holiday Gift For You
As a believer in the cup that is half full I don’t often rant but while researching for a new Holiday Project, which I will share with you in a moment I bumped into a couple of articles that discuss a subject that is often treated as the dirty little secret that really isn’t a secret at all.
When Age And Gender Work Against Your Job Search
I discovered this link to the Forbes article by Ellen Weinreb while reading a review of it on Goldivas.com, an internet magazine for women for women over 50. If you care to read it click the link above.
Both the review and the article itself were eloquently written and did a fine job of illuminating the increasing difficulties women over 50 are facing when attempting to find employment. Ms. Weinreb, a professional recruiter who interacts with job seekers every day says “For older women, gender isn’t the only roadblock in the job market today.”
Both articles discuss the cultural bias and mistaken perception that women lose their value as they age. Consider the quote from Carrie Chapman Catt during a speech at the Senate hearing on woman’s suffrage, February 13, 1900:
No written law has ever been more binding than unwritten custom supported by popular opinion.
However I was encouraged that someone, anyone had taken the time to bring this to the forefront! Bravo to you Ms. Weinreb who further states “I thought I might be onto a trend that has yet to be seriously discussed. I decided to do my own research to validate my observation, and believe that this is a serious issue facing older women.”
I couldn’t agree more. Recently I have been attending a number of women’s groups and I can assure her this is absolutely a trend. On my last excursion I was sitting with six women and four of them were unemployed. Three had been let go in cut backs and one was let go due to the company’s closure.
All four have been actively seeking employment for one to two years. One of them has resorted to doing temp work, two others are trying to start new businesses while continuing to seek employment and one is surviving on dwindling savings.
Yes, in my circle this conversation is all too familiar. The real surprise for me is where is the outrage? When the subject is discussed it is always in a matter of fact way and with a tone of resignation. A sentiment echoed by the women interviewed for the Forbes article. Now I applaud women for not whining but where is the outrage? Where is the energy for a solution?
The Solution?
While I agree with both articles that cultural bias will not change overnight I truly believe there is a lot more we women can do in addition to Ms. Weinreb’s suggestion that we should “persevere and be careful not to talk or act in ways that reinforce the cultural bias.”
The truth is our numbers are great.
Imagine the impact we could make if all women of a certain age made a concentrated effort to support each other’s endeavors and businesses whenever possible.
There are many competent qualified professional women of a certain age who have a great deal to offer if only we could easily access them.
THE HOLIDAY GIFT:
It’s the Holidays and that time of year when shopping is on the agenda. Sooo I thought this might be a good time for me to do my part to:
Support Sage Women’s Enterprises
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Promote your business on my site for free!
I am setting up a Holiday Reference page on my site where women of a certain age who offer a product or service can contribute a small Ad with a link to your site for the holidays. Below is a peek at the page and a sample add
If you are a midlife or boomer woman with a business or service to offer I invite you to take advantage of this opportunity and promote your enterprise for the holidays!
If you know other women of a certain age who could benefit from this be sure to pass this along to them!
To participate in the Women Supporting Women Campaign fill in the registration form below and the easy instructions on how to participate will be delivered to you. (You will also receive a free subscription to my e-zine if you don’t already receive it)
So what are you waiting for…Join Us, support your fellow women of a certain age and let the Holidays Begin!
To your hopes, dreams and possibilities,
Deborah
P.S. Don’t forget to SHARE this article with your fellow women of a certain age! As always, if you have any questions or comments don’t hesitate to contact me deborah@womenintransitiononline.com. I’d love to hear from you.
Holiday Stress – It’s that time again
Can you believe it? It’s November and the year is almost at its end…
This is the time of year when there are lots of activities planned and many exciting things happening. The Holidays!
Many of us have made great strides this year. And some of us may have hoped for more! Whichever segment you may fall into – the New Year has yet to arrive and there is plenty of time to create something meaningful to you.
It’s time for you. YOU’RE IMPORTANT!
Women in Transition Online recently unveiled two New Mastermind opportunities designed specifically for midlife women and beyond! What better gift to give yourself than the opportunity to realize strong progress on your goals in the Mini Mastermind Experience or explore new options for your life in the Adventure Fest Boot Camp. I have implemented an easy subscription plan for both programs and you can register as much as a week beyond our start date for either program! What better gift can you give yourself than the opportunity to discover what it is you truly love in life and get started doing those things right now?
November 2nd (TOMORROW) is our meet and greet call so don’t miss this opportunity; JOIN US TODAY!
Speaking of gifts, below are 4 tips to help you reduce those holiday melt downs!
HOLIDAY STRESS
Halloween has passed and the busy holiday season begins. I love the holidays but the truth is; it can also create a lot of stress in our lives if we let it. Can it be avoided? Well… probably not all of it but here are some timely hints I have found can really help:
START PLANNING EARLY – The best time to make a plan is when you are not in over your head! Ummmm I think that would be NOW, right? So why not sit down and plan your holiday meals, table and home decorations, guest list, travel plans and gift list and budget and… Sound overwhelming? It does to me too but I found a great site where you can download a really reasonable ($9.95) Holiday Planner. You just follow the 12 or 6 week Christmas Countdown Checklist which makes spacing out your holiday tasks a lot easier! No surprises; I like the sound of that. (There is also access to FREE holiday budget spreadsheets that do all the addition work for you.) This is a great site and she has other types of great planners as well! Well worth checking out:
http://www.thehouseholdplanner.com/products/holiday-planner/
GET PLENTY OF REST – We are all more able to cope when we’re rested. Try to get your 8 hours each night and eat healthy when you can. (Oh those Christmas parties and goodies!) It is also a good idea to carve out some quiet alone time each day. It doesn’t have to be a lot of time but even 15 minutes to yourself when no one will ask anything of you can really help to keep you centered and calm.
DON’T FORGET TO GUARD YOUR ‘ME TIME’ – When we get busy it’s often our ‘me time’ that seems to be the logical place to make up for ‘not enough time.’ Don’t do it! When you neglect your personal needs and wants you wind up tired, resentful, grouchy and ineffective at everything else you try to do.
ASK FOR HELP – This is no time to play the Wonder Woman role. ASK FOR HELP! You are one person. Look ahead and divvy up some of the duties you know you won’t be able to get to. By doing this early in the planning stage you will stand a much better chance of enjoying the season and have more quality time with those you love!
Remember, you are human and your best IS ENOUGH. Keep a positive attitude and enjoy this season. I hope you spend it surrounded by those you love and are filled with the gratitude of all that you have and all that you are.
Watch for more tips throughout this holiday season and if you have any to share be sure to put them in the comments section at http://www.womenintransitiononline.com/deborah-speaks/ or email them to me at deborah@womenintransitiononline.com.
Life Change – Clutter Therapy for the Mind
Wow, we are having such an incredible experience in the Adventure Fest Boot Camp Mastermind and the energy created is producing powerful ideas and actions! The mutual support, contributions and group accountability has proved to be a delicious recipe for growth!
This past week we were exploring how the people we surround ourselves with and the environments we spend our time in can make a huge impact on our lives. This discussion proved to be very insightful and really got me thinking!
Clutter Therapy
How can something as simple, (or as difficult!) as de-cluttering a closet and removing items that no longer fit in our lives actually create a more positive outlook for the future and provide new energy to break free of old habits and move forward?
When your environment is cluttered, your mind is cluttered.
As my daughter Alexis says:
“The less clutter you have in your home, the clearer you are when you walk out the door.”
Or in the door for that matter! I think we all can connect with the feeling of walking into a clean orderly house after a long or stressful day. The difference is night and day.
The truth is, mental and physical clutter are well known sources of stress and tend to creep into every facet of our lives affecting our ability to think clearly and our enjoyment of life overall. Clutter is an energy sucker that distracts you, weighs you down and can leave you feeling overwhelmed from the moment you open your eyes in the morning.
When you let go of things that no longer fit or are not adding value to your life a huge new source of energy becomes available to you and your mind has room to breathe and space for new ideas!
But what about that mental clutter?
Lately I have begun to notice the number of people who are walking their dogs or with their children at the park and even companions out having dinner; all with their I-pods in front of their face instead of enjoying the moment.
Today we are constantly bombarded with messages from every sort; commercials, emails, texts and news updates. Most of us have a myriad of obligations and activities on top of that!
So I guess it’s really not that hard to see why spending a bit of time de-cluttering your world and mind might reap some major benefits in anyone’s life but especially if you are trying to work on changing your life or achieve a much wanted goal!
Here are a few ideas to help get you started:
Start with any area that frustrates you the most! Now I’m not an organizing expert but from the majority of women I talk to, including myself, the two biggest areas of concern are the clothes closet and that ‘counter’ which is the drop zone when you bring in mail or come in the door.
- The closet:
- If you haven’t worn it in over a year – donate or toss it.
- If it needs altering and you haven’t done it in 6 months – donate or toss.
- If you wear it but don’t really like it – donate or toss.
- If it doesn’t fit right – get rid of it! I can see keeping a couple of goal items but delegating a whole section of a closet to clothes you wore 5 – 10 years ago is NOT incentive. I actually pulled several items from my closet that had been there so long the moths had decided to eat them and I didn’t even know it!
- Then move onto the shoes. Again, if they are not comfortable and if you don’t actually like or wear them – donate or toss.
- Next the drop zone:
- Go through the pile and separate according to what it is; bills, to be filed, junk/trash. Mine usually includes a large amount of junk mail and a surprisingly small amount of items that actually need to be kept.
- The BIG thing is to devise a plan to KEEP it from accumulating again.
- Plug into your schedule, right now, a time to get the mail and immediately sit and sort through it. It really only takes about 5 -10 minutes to take bills to where you pay them, put coupons in a folder, file what needs to be filed and throw the rest out!
- Take the time to find a different place for your purse and keys. Purchase the folders, baskets or boxes for depositing the items you normally leave in your drop zone and put them where you want them to belong!
- Now for the Therapy part: (These came up in one of our Mastermind Boot Camp Sessions and they are both really good!
- One way to get a big burst of energy is to take a room you spend a lot of time in and go through and de-clutter it; donating and tossing old and unwanted items in the room. Remove any clutter from tables and drawers. Then re-arrange the furniture and purchase some new pillows to create a new fresh look. You will be surprised to find after making this change you might just have a new way of looking at other things in your life as well!
- De-Clutter your information overload: In this fast paced digital world we live in today it is easy for information overload to creep in. Set some limits!
- Get rid of some of your RSS feeds.
- Unsubscribe from updates from companies whose products you are no longer interested in.
- Get rid of files and programs you don’t need.(Your computer will also thank you)
- Consider checking your face book or emails only at certain times of the day.
- Speaking of information overload…while you’re at it try reducing the amount of television you watch!
When you get in the habit of devoting a little bit of time getting rid of accumulated clutter on a REGULAR basis you’ll reap the rewards of not only a more pleasant environment but also reduced stress and a lot more room for creativity! So start small but work on it on a scheduled regular basis and don’t beat yourself up if it isn’t finished on your first or second visit! As you stay at it you will soon find it’s DONE!
As Bruce Lee says:
Absorb what is useful. Discard what is not. Add what is uniquely your own.
P.S. Don’t forget to check out the NEXT ‘How to Get a New Perspective on the Rest of Your Life discussion on October 19th! Click Here for more info and to join us.
The Fourth Cup!
Are you having Coffee With Debi and Doug?
If so you won’t want to miss today’s discussion…
Debi and Doug talk about commitment for men and women ’of a certain age’ and Debi’s big decision to drastically alter her lifestyle!
Click HOW TO TALK TO A MAN OVER 50!
And have a listen!
Then be sure to come back and post your thoughts and your personal experiences around this subject. We’d love to hear…See you there!
P.S. Also want to let you know that the Positive Attitude Workshop site’s facelift is 98% complete so I hope you take a moment to visit! By the way the Serious Summer Sale, even though it’s not summer, will continue for another couple of weeks while the final touches to the site are completed. I hopeyou will take advantage of the ridiculously low prices on the 3-Step System to Revitalize Your Life, Goals and Relationships E-course and new CD! CLICK HERE NOW!
P.S.S. We are STILL trying to correct a couple of ‘bugs’ on the site… occasionally the ‘comment here’ link does not “light up” ;( – Not to worry , just click on the number of comments below or the “edit’ button and it will take you to the comment section!
Weekly Success Tip #5
Success Tip of the Week#5
“ I would much rather have regrets about not doing what people said, than regretting not doing what my heart led me to and wondering what life had been like if I’d just been myself.”
Brittany Renee (English Author and Dancer)
Know Yourself
One of the central steps to success and happiness is to know what is truly important to you …now. We all live at such a pace and encounter so many changes in our life it’s so helpful to stop, discover and appreciate what our unique version of the world is. Without this knowledge you can never make the right decisions for you. Take some time to reflect on what is important to you in life and make sure your actions match your true values. Regardless of what you discover until these things are in alignment no amount of action will work!
Take Some Time for Introspection:
This week try to steal some time for yourself and write (best) or at least think about what’s working in your life now and what isn’t. This exercise might give you some real insight as to the reasons why!
Have a fabulous week!
P.S. Be sure to watch for the coming New Fun Feature: How to Talk to a Man Over 50! This is shaping up to be very interesting and I will be sharing some more juicy details later this week! Remember, this new feature is about YOU and your questions and so far they have been great. I have received everything from silly, “why isn’t he willing to shave off his sideburns to make me happy?”, to the more serious, “just what role do men see themselves playing in a relationship these days?” To add your questions to the list simply click deborah@womenintransitiononline.com and email them to me or you can add it below in the comment section!
P.S.S. Remember when we take responsibility for our own happiness and success things really begin to happen. The perfect time to invest in YOU is NOW during the Serious Summer Sale. CLICK HERE NOW!
Success Tip of the Week #4 and MORE
I hope you all enjoyed your long weekend and managed to have some fun and relaxation.
Interestingly this week’s tip fell on Labor Day so I thought it might be fun to deliver it on Tuesday and share a valuable lesson I learned this weekend.
Labor Day signals the end of summer and the weather here in Arizona is finally cooling off. We’re not quite there yet but the early mornings have been pleasant and cooler which is a sure sign that another beautiful winter is finally on its way. It has been a long hot summer and much has been happening here at WITO. As I sat down to write this week’s Success Tip it reminded me of the old days in school when we were all asked to write a report on how we spent our summer vacation. As I pondered this I began to realize just how much has occurred in these summer months!
- A large number of fabulous creative powerful women who dance to the same beat of the drum as I do have joined the WITO Community. In fact the numbers of you have doubled since April and most of it as a result of good old fashion word of mouth. I have had the honor and privilege to personally work with a number of you and celebrate your successes. Thanks to all of you!
- I created all the content and launched, with your wonderful input, the 21 Day Attitude Adjustment e-course.
- I just finished recording and producing my first CD, The 21 Day Attitude Adjustment CD. Both of these tasks required me to tackle and learn numerous technical skills which were previously on the “SCARY” list. (oh for a staff or the more popular term…team)
- I have written numerous articles a few of which were featured on the homepages of large self growth sites.
- I have recently been invited to co-host a teleseminar with a popular published author, (more on this soon) and have recently been approached by other self improvement experts with Joint Venture proposals.
- I am very excited about a new venture I have been working on which will be coming soon. I briefly talked about it in my last e-zine: How to Talk to a Man Over 50! This promises to be as fun for you as it has been for me in the making of it! After an arduous search I finally discovered the perfect person (man) to divulge the unabridged version of what goes on in the minds of men!! I will be filling everyone in on all the juicy details soon but I still am looking for MORE questions. So isn’t there something you are just dying to know? The questions so far have been great and I think some of the answers will surprise you! Please keep them coming and email me your questions at deborah@womenintransitiononline.com
What does any of this have to do with the tip of the week? You see there is a very valuable lesson in this that we can all learn from.
As I sat down to write this week’s tip I realized my energy was a little low. Well, ok it was very low and I felt very uninspired and a bit overwhelmed. Even though these milestones might seem small to some they were each wrought with hours of experimentation, research and often frustration. There were many times during this long summer when I was in a word, discouraged at what appeared to me as lack of progress. There were many times when well intentioned people who genuinely care about me offered their gentle suggestions that I should “go back to what I knew” or find something more secure. But each time I listened to some of this “advice” I tried to picture myself doing anything else and I just couldn’t see it. Each time I was ready to concede and perhaps through in the towel something encouraging would occur and lift my confidence and resolve and reassure me of my original purpose. Each time there was a tiny glimpse of what could be.
But here is the interesting part. It really wasn’t apparent to me just how much I had accomplished in three short months until I took the time to sit down and write it all down. It was then that it occurred to me how much I had accomplished and the many lessons I had learned over these summer months. There are way too many to list in this brief article but the biggest thing and what I think is the most important is this:
It is so easy to become discouraged and fall victim to turning our focus on what we don’t have and what we don’t do right that it blinds us to the bigger number of things we do right every day. When we allow this to happen it can begin to appear that we are not doing well when in reality we have accomplished so very much. We often don’t take the time to notice and celebrate our many successes. I am willing to bet the number of your successes far outweigh the small number of “perceived defeats.” In looking only at those perceived defeats you have made them into mountains when they are really only mole hills.
So this week’s tip; focus on all your successes and triumphs, all of them. Write them down and with the intention that nothing is too small. Your list should be really long. When you finish I think you’ll find those successes that seem small to you in comparison to your goal may be huge to someone else who has yet to take the first step. Write them down and read them over again and again. The secret to your inspiration and positive attitude will be in these words!
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Deborah Hayes, CTA Life Coach
Empowering women to live a life of consequence, a life without regrets that is your own unique version of the life you love. About Deborah
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