It’s BACK; The Self Improvement Gifts Giveaway 6.
Have I got some exciting news for you today! It’s BACK!
I want to let you know about a Self Improvement site that will allow you to download 100’s of self help gifts, including mine! And yes…it is absolutely FREE!
Yep, you heard me right…for FREE!
All you have to do is go here: http://selfimprovementgifts6.com/go/1203
So, if you have found yourself going round in circles time and time again just trying to improve things in your life, but find yourself getting nowhere fast, then I’m pleased to tell you that it is now easily within your reach to change things during 2012.
HOWEVER, just like anything in life there is a downside here – BUT don’t panic because if you act fast you won’t miss out.
The Self Improvement Gifts Giveaway 6 hosted by Stephanie Mulac, Carolyn Hansen and Dr. Joe Rubino will only be open for a VERY LIMITED TIME… only a few weeks in fact!
So if you are serious about making 2012 the BEST year ever, then you need to jump on board as soon as the event opens on the 5th of January. (HEY,THAT’S TODAY!)
Don’t delay because the doors close for good a few weeks later.
Here’s just a small sample of the 100s of gifts that are available for you to download instantly once the event goes live:
* Affirmations For A Wealthy Mindset Audio – Elaine Lockard
* Rewire Your Brain For Success – Gene Anger
* Self Care For Body & Mind – Mari Lyn Harris
* A Beginners Guide To Running – Paul Klein
* Millionaire Goal Setting Secrets – Amanda Stephen
* Create Your Own Self Improvements Products – Keith Purkiss
* And Much Much More!
If you are ready to start the year off right, which I’m sure you are, and tackle EVERYTHING that is holding you back from moving forward in life, or if you just want to change things because you are looking for a sense of inner peace, then you need to go here RIGHT NOW:
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You know, this is the 6th Self Improvement Gifts Giveaway event and each year it just gets BIGGER and BETTER!
This REALLY is the largest collection of POWERFUL self help and personal growth gifts you will find on the Internet EVER!
Before you go I just have one question for you…
Now that you know about this potentially life changing giveaway, are you going to make the most of the opportunity, or are you going to sit back and let 2012 be a repeat of 2011?
The choice is yours, but I know what I’m going to do and that is FIGHT BACK and live life the way I want to….Are you with me?
Hope to see you there :)
To your hopes, dreams and possibilities,
Deborah
http://selfimprovementgifts6.com/go/1203
P.S. By the way…Now that you’re ready to life your life YOUR WAY…you still have time to take advantage of the 40% off sale on BOTH of the Mastermind Groups. So this year gather and conspire with your fellow women of a certain age and make life your way happen!
P.S.S. The entire 5 week Adventure Fest Boot Camp Mastermind including all the weekly strategies, helpful tools, suggestions sheets with tons of ideas to pick and choose from and spark your creativity, email support on our private password protected community page that I will administer as well as a group weekly community call that I also administer is less than $18.00 a week! OR the 3 month Mini Mastermind for $15.00 a week!! Take advantage of this Fabulous Sales… Join us…the second half of your life should be fun!
Important Note for The New Year!
Happy New Year!
Well, here it is! A brand new year…”2012” has finally arrived and with it the opportunity to ‘start anew.’ Even though anytime is the right time for a new beginning there is something symbolic and special about the beginning of a new year. To me it feels like receiving a brand new journal filled with empty pages and a set of colored pens!
Yesterday I stopped into a restaurant to spend a little time alone pondering the forthcoming year. With my new journal and pens in hand I found myself busily scratching out notes and ideas for the year when it occurred to me there was an interesting slogan on the drink cup I was mindlessly staring at…
It said:
“HALF FULL…HALF EMPTY…
EITHER WAY, IT’S TIME FOR A REFILL.
JUST THE WAY IT IS”
As I began to think about this slogan I took a little time to review my notes and discovered something interesting. Nowhere in my notes was there any mention of Self Nurturing and Taking Time to Replenish.
It’s such a common thing we all do, isn’t it? And it’s such an essential step in creating a life full of meaning, joy, and abundance. Yet we seldom remember to include it in our plans or consider it a goal that needs to be written down on our ‘goals list.’ So many times it winds up be considered later or separately…you know, when all else is accomplished or at least well on its way.
This surprised me most because it is one of the bigger subjects we discuss in both of the Mastermind Mentoring Groups I host and several of the strategies we work on are about this very subject! It is so ingrained in us. Many of us have spent the bulk of our lives neglecting ourselves focused on taking care of everyone and everything else even the thought of self-nurturance results in feelings of guilt.
So for those of you who are in the midst of planning your New Year…I hope you will make it a point to include discovering and satisfying your own needs and desires on your list. Not only will your life be fuller and more joyous, your friends and loved ones will reap the benefit. Make yourself a priority! You will have so much more to give others!
So here’s to you…your hopes, dreams and possibilities.
There are Great things to come!
It’s going to be an amazing 2012!!
Deborah
P.S. Anyone interested in exploring your possibilities in a Mastermind Mentoring Group…THE 40% OFF SALE HAS BEEN EXTENDED TO JANUARY 10, 2012! If you’re interested in a little preview join us on January 6th, 2012 for “How to Get a New Perspective on the Rest of Your Life” Teleseminar/Discussion. These discussions are always intimate, open and inspiring! Join us!
Holiday Stress – The Real Reason You Feel It and How to Avoid It
Cultures around the world have their own special days and ways of expressing gratitude for all that is good in their lives and recently most of us who live in the United States celebrated ours; Thanksgiving.
Now that the food has been cooked and eaten and we have taken the time to share our love and thanks with our friends and relatives the whirlwind of holiday parties and duties begins.
HOLIDAY STRESS
This is a joyous time for most of us and the anticipation intensifies as neighborhoods and malls explode with holiday lights, decorations and magic. I love the holiday season but it can also bring with it a lot of stress.
I have often thought the reason for the stressful feelings everyone seems to experience was due to additional duties, shopping and of course the constant commercials encouraging us that bigger, brighter and more is the key to holiday joy! But according to Ronald Nathan, PhD, Clinical professor at Albany Medical College in New York the real culprit might be our own memories:
“When we think about the holidays, we dwell on the past and what went wrong, or we romanticize it and make it impossible to re-create,” he says.
I think it is particularly relevant to those of us in midlife and beyond. At this stage in our lives chances are good that our holidays will be different than they used to be. Our children might be away at school or married and in other locations creating their own traditions. Perhaps we have downsized and those nostalgic memories of giant gatherings and parties we once hosted are not realistic or even as appealing in our new digs.
Yes, I believe it’s the memories that can be confusing. Different does not necessarily mean not as good but it does require us to let go of what once was; which can be easier said than done. Consider the three agreed upon stages of transition:
1) The ‘letting go’ phase – experiencing the ending of something that we knew
2) The neutral zone – the time between when you let go of something and become comfortable with the new. This is also referred to as the transitional time.
3) And beginning anew – the final stage of change. When you know you have moved on. You have left the old behind and made the necessary adjustments to move forward in a healthy way.
Each of us goes through the stages of change in our own time and for me a giant step in the letting go phase came with my recent realization that I no longer own a Christmas Tree! Yikes, that is a little bit of an awakening and yet for some strange reason I saved all of my treasured tree ornaments. It may sound trivial to you but in my world it’s an enlightening moment. You see when I moved and sold ‘everything’ I made the conscious decision to sell my tree but now that it is my first holiday without the tradition of decorating and putting up the tree…I know I don’t have a tree. What was once a big symbolic part of the season for me is gone; changed.
As I watch my daughter from my present perspective stress over the fact her tree is up but not decorated, planned gifts for her children are already out of stock, outdoor lights on white wire are sold out and will have to be ordered and it is only the first week in December, I think I can say I am ready to let go of that part of my life! I am not saying I won’t ever own or put up a Christmas tree again but I now realize I am ready to create new traditions that fit my new life; and that’s a good thing.
We all create a great deal of angst when we put our focus on the past and what we don’t have. Practicing the ‘attitude of gratitude’ and taking the time to notice and appreciate what we do have can truly transform our viewpoint.
In my case, I may not have a tree this year to place all those treasured ornaments filled with memories of the past and I’m not certain when or even if I will want to again. On the other hand, I am in a fresh new environment surrounded by those who are most important to me at a very special time of year; and yes that is a very good thing.
However you celebrate this season I hope you remember to focus on life’s gifts within any challenges you might experience and try not to stress over the perfect dinner, gift or holiday decorations! I wish you the warmest and happiest of Holidays!
The Dirty Little Secret and a Holiday Gift For You
As a believer in the cup that is half full I don’t often rant but while researching for a new Holiday Project, which I will share with you in a moment I bumped into a couple of articles that discuss a subject that is often treated as the dirty little secret that really isn’t a secret at all.
When Age And Gender Work Against Your Job Search
I discovered this link to the Forbes article by Ellen Weinreb while reading a review of it on Goldivas.com, an internet magazine for women for women over 50. If you care to read it click the link above.
Both the review and the article itself were eloquently written and did a fine job of illuminating the increasing difficulties women over 50 are facing when attempting to find employment. Ms. Weinreb, a professional recruiter who interacts with job seekers every day says “For older women, gender isn’t the only roadblock in the job market today.”
Both articles discuss the cultural bias and mistaken perception that women lose their value as they age. Consider the quote from Carrie Chapman Catt during a speech at the Senate hearing on woman’s suffrage, February 13, 1900:
No written law has ever been more binding than unwritten custom supported by popular opinion.
However I was encouraged that someone, anyone had taken the time to bring this to the forefront! Bravo to you Ms. Weinreb who further states “I thought I might be onto a trend that has yet to be seriously discussed. I decided to do my own research to validate my observation, and believe that this is a serious issue facing older women.”
I couldn’t agree more. Recently I have been attending a number of women’s groups and I can assure her this is absolutely a trend. On my last excursion I was sitting with six women and four of them were unemployed. Three had been let go in cut backs and one was let go due to the company’s closure.
All four have been actively seeking employment for one to two years. One of them has resorted to doing temp work, two others are trying to start new businesses while continuing to seek employment and one is surviving on dwindling savings.
Yes, in my circle this conversation is all too familiar. The real surprise for me is where is the outrage? When the subject is discussed it is always in a matter of fact way and with a tone of resignation. A sentiment echoed by the women interviewed for the Forbes article. Now I applaud women for not whining but where is the outrage? Where is the energy for a solution?
The Solution?
While I agree with both articles that cultural bias will not change overnight I truly believe there is a lot more we women can do in addition to Ms. Weinreb’s suggestion that we should “persevere and be careful not to talk or act in ways that reinforce the cultural bias.”
The truth is our numbers are great.
Imagine the impact we could make if all women of a certain age made a concentrated effort to support each other’s endeavors and businesses whenever possible.
There are many competent qualified professional women of a certain age who have a great deal to offer if only we could easily access them.
THE HOLIDAY GIFT:
It’s the Holidays and that time of year when shopping is on the agenda. Sooo I thought this might be a good time for me to do my part to:
Support Sage Women’s Enterprises
FREE ADVERTISING FOR THE HOLIDAYS!
Promote your business on my site for free!
I am setting up a Holiday Reference page on my site where women of a certain age who offer a product or service can contribute a small Ad with a link to your site for the holidays. Below is a peek at the page and a sample add
If you are a midlife or boomer woman with a business or service to offer I invite you to take advantage of this opportunity and promote your enterprise for the holidays!
If you know other women of a certain age who could benefit from this be sure to pass this along to them!
To participate in the Women Supporting Women Campaign fill in the registration form below and the easy instructions on how to participate will be delivered to you. (You will also receive a free subscription to my e-zine if you don’t already receive it)
So what are you waiting for…Join Us, support your fellow women of a certain age and let the Holidays Begin!
To your hopes, dreams and possibilities,
Deborah
P.S. Don’t forget to SHARE this article with your fellow women of a certain age! As always, if you have any questions or comments don’t hesitate to contact me deborah@womenintransitiononline.com. I’d love to hear from you.
Life Change – 5 Ways to Get Unstuck and Started
Dare to Change!
Many of us have come to that moment in our lives when we realize we have been presented with an unprecedented gift; quality time. We women of a certain age today will live healthier and longer than any time in history. Interestingly just as we are armed with a collection of more or less half a lifetime of experiences, failures, successes and the kind of knowledge and wisdom one acquires only through ‘living’ we find ourselves with an indescribable yearning for something more.
Recently during one of our Adventure Fest Mastermind discussions we found ourselves trying to define this yearning and we ultimately described it as a desire to recover and reactivate those parts of ourselves from the past that we have let lapse during all this living. We recalled what it felt like to be filled with imagination, creativity and a natural intuition for our personal rhythm. That longing for the long lost time when we instinctively took care of our needs and wants and made room for the personal exploration that kept us whole, fulfilled and growing.
Yes, these are exciting times for us and with our cache of life lessons, wisdom and passion we have the opportunity to live the second half of our lives very differently than our mothers and grandmothers if we choose to. But for some of us, with all this experience and living we have been doing, our lives can feel like a giant house filled with cluttered rooms. There is so much accumulated stuff in these rooms it can be overwhelming to decide where to start. Often we spend so much time thinking about how we might change our lives we become overwhelmed and do nothing at all.
It is not because things are difficult that we do not dare, it is because we do not dare that they are difficult.
~ Seneca
The important thing is to take that first step and begin. Here are 5 tips to help start the process:
- Start Small – but START! Begin by spending a designated amount of time each day thinking and writing about how satisfied you are with your life now. Define which parts of your life you like and those parts you would like to change. But remember, indecision is a time thief! Try setting a limit for the amount of time you will spend deciding where to start. During that time write down all the possibilities you want to explore and decide on one or two areas of your life you want to improve. Once you’re deadline arrives – commit to starting. (As in put it on your calendar and do it)
- Make a Plan – Next decide on two or three action steps that you can take to start your progress. Keep a daily list of actions needed and completed. Commit to doing at least one thing, no matter how small, on the list each day. It’s helpful to realize from the beginning that your plan will not be perfect and its okay to change it if you find it isn’t working. Make an agreement with yourself to be flexible.
- Follow Through – Moving through change can be uncomfortable and feel awkward but it is the only way to move forward. Recognize that we each have our own style of dealing with change. Understanding this will take the pressure off and allow you to undertake this change at your own pace. This is an important tip and will greatly increase the likelihood of sticking to your plan!
- Get Support – Don’t be afraid to ask for help! Having a safe and non-judgmental place to go for ideas, encouragement and accountability will play a big part in your eventual success. Enlist the help of a good friend or find a group who share your goals.
- Make it FUN – This isn’t supposed to be drudgery. Find ways to unlock your creativity and make it fun. This is about getting back in touch with ‘you’; don’t compare yourself or your progress with anyone else. Try new things and bring back your forgotten pleasures!
Keep your results handy and visit them often for contemplation. Hopefully it gives you a peek at what might be and inspires you to get Unstuck and Started!
P.S. On that note…don’t forget the FREE Teleseminar/Disscussion. You can get started right now by joining us on October 19th for How to Get a New Perspective on the Rest of Your Life. Or even better – join one of our coming Mastermind Groups! CLICK HERE to get unstuck NOW!
To your hopes, dreams, and possibilities…
Deborah
Life Change – Clutter Therapy for the Mind
Wow, we are having such an incredible experience in the Adventure Fest Boot Camp Mastermind and the energy created is producing powerful ideas and actions! The mutual support, contributions and group accountability has proved to be a delicious recipe for growth!
This past week we were exploring how the people we surround ourselves with and the environments we spend our time in can make a huge impact on our lives. This discussion proved to be very insightful and really got me thinking!
Clutter Therapy
How can something as simple, (or as difficult!) as de-cluttering a closet and removing items that no longer fit in our lives actually create a more positive outlook for the future and provide new energy to break free of old habits and move forward?
When your environment is cluttered, your mind is cluttered.
As my daughter Alexis says:
“The less clutter you have in your home, the clearer you are when you walk out the door.”
Or in the door for that matter! I think we all can connect with the feeling of walking into a clean orderly house after a long or stressful day. The difference is night and day.
The truth is, mental and physical clutter are well known sources of stress and tend to creep into every facet of our lives affecting our ability to think clearly and our enjoyment of life overall. Clutter is an energy sucker that distracts you, weighs you down and can leave you feeling overwhelmed from the moment you open your eyes in the morning.
When you let go of things that no longer fit or are not adding value to your life a huge new source of energy becomes available to you and your mind has room to breathe and space for new ideas!
But what about that mental clutter?
Lately I have begun to notice the number of people who are walking their dogs or with their children at the park and even companions out having dinner; all with their I-pods in front of their face instead of enjoying the moment.
Today we are constantly bombarded with messages from every sort; commercials, emails, texts and news updates. Most of us have a myriad of obligations and activities on top of that!
So I guess it’s really not that hard to see why spending a bit of time de-cluttering your world and mind might reap some major benefits in anyone’s life but especially if you are trying to work on changing your life or achieve a much wanted goal!
Here are a few ideas to help get you started:
Start with any area that frustrates you the most! Now I’m not an organizing expert but from the majority of women I talk to, including myself, the two biggest areas of concern are the clothes closet and that ‘counter’ which is the drop zone when you bring in mail or come in the door.
- The closet:
- If you haven’t worn it in over a year – donate or toss it.
- If it needs altering and you haven’t done it in 6 months – donate or toss.
- If you wear it but don’t really like it – donate or toss.
- If it doesn’t fit right – get rid of it! I can see keeping a couple of goal items but delegating a whole section of a closet to clothes you wore 5 – 10 years ago is NOT incentive. I actually pulled several items from my closet that had been there so long the moths had decided to eat them and I didn’t even know it!
- Then move onto the shoes. Again, if they are not comfortable and if you don’t actually like or wear them – donate or toss.
- Next the drop zone:
- Go through the pile and separate according to what it is; bills, to be filed, junk/trash. Mine usually includes a large amount of junk mail and a surprisingly small amount of items that actually need to be kept.
- The BIG thing is to devise a plan to KEEP it from accumulating again.
- Plug into your schedule, right now, a time to get the mail and immediately sit and sort through it. It really only takes about 5 -10 minutes to take bills to where you pay them, put coupons in a folder, file what needs to be filed and throw the rest out!
- Take the time to find a different place for your purse and keys. Purchase the folders, baskets or boxes for depositing the items you normally leave in your drop zone and put them where you want them to belong!
- Now for the Therapy part: (These came up in one of our Mastermind Boot Camp Sessions and they are both really good!
- One way to get a big burst of energy is to take a room you spend a lot of time in and go through and de-clutter it; donating and tossing old and unwanted items in the room. Remove any clutter from tables and drawers. Then re-arrange the furniture and purchase some new pillows to create a new fresh look. You will be surprised to find after making this change you might just have a new way of looking at other things in your life as well!
- De-Clutter your information overload: In this fast paced digital world we live in today it is easy for information overload to creep in. Set some limits!
- Get rid of some of your RSS feeds.
- Unsubscribe from updates from companies whose products you are no longer interested in.
- Get rid of files and programs you don’t need.(Your computer will also thank you)
- Consider checking your face book or emails only at certain times of the day.
- Speaking of information overload…while you’re at it try reducing the amount of television you watch!
When you get in the habit of devoting a little bit of time getting rid of accumulated clutter on a REGULAR basis you’ll reap the rewards of not only a more pleasant environment but also reduced stress and a lot more room for creativity! So start small but work on it on a scheduled regular basis and don’t beat yourself up if it isn’t finished on your first or second visit! As you stay at it you will soon find it’s DONE!
As Bruce Lee says:
Absorb what is useful. Discard what is not. Add what is uniquely your own.
P.S. Don’t forget to check out the NEXT ‘How to Get a New Perspective on the Rest of Your Life discussion on October 19th! Click Here for more info and to join us.
Transitions and Sage advice from one far younger than I
Almost all of us are go through transitions or experience changes of one kind or another throughout our lives. Life will change whether we plan it or not and no matter if it is major or minor there is one thing that all changes have in common; there are days when we cannot seem to see the daylight at the end of the tunnel. Recently it was just such a day for me when I received an email from an amazing guy about his even more amazing adventure!
A LITTLE BACKGROUND ON JOHN
John Reese is a well known young marketing genius and an expert in internet traffic generation. After years of struggling to become a success and a large amount of accumulated debt he made quite an impact on the internet marketing community when he made over a million dollars in a single day! I know…it got my attention too and I had been a subscriber to his list for quite some time until last summer when he announced that he had made a drastic decision:
JOHN’S MINIMALIST ADVENTURE
He abruptly announced he had decided to get rid of all his ‘stuff’ with the exception of his laptop and a few days worth of clothes and travel indefinitely. Now that’s a TRANSITION! The email also spoke of how he had been reading about minimalism and how eliminating all distractions and ‘things’ could really free up your mind and unlock creativity to its maximum potential.
And I said…Wow!
Now I don’t know Mr. Reese personally but I have admired his work and certainly appreciated his story of how he struggled for a long time to make a success online. Through tenacity and never allowing discouragement to damper his quest he ultimately achieved his dream. When I received his email last summer I was very intrigued because although I was not contemplating anything quite so drastic I also had been reading and thinking a lot about what I now call my ‘fresh start transformation.’ As the months passed I forgot about John’s email so imagine how pleasantly surprised I was to receive another email with a long awaited update; given the fact Mr. Reese is not yet ‘of a certain age’ I was even further surprised at some of the thoughts he shared about his “minimalism” experiment.
HIS PLAN
In summary his plan was to travel the world and run his business from his laptop for at least a year but that did not happen. (Not all bad, life and our goals are usually a work in progress) After 3 months he grew tired, lonely and a little road weary so he adjusted his plan, returned to the USA and rented a ‘home base’ to allow a more leisurely pace for his continued minimalist adventure. He shared a lot about what he had learned about himself and life so far but what follows are a few excerpts from the email that struck a chord in me despite the difference in our age and path.
“Ultimately, I have learned a lot about myself, about being an entrepreneur, and about tapping into my own creativity from this experiment. Let me share some of those insights…
AS LIFE GOES ON, OVERWHELM INCREASES
I found that the older I got, as more time passed, the more life itself became overwhelming. I accumulated more stuff, more relationships, more memories, and often more obligations.”
He spoke of how we tend to be mental and actual pack rats; almost unconsciously accumulating and collecting. As he says;
“If the brain is like a computer, it only has so much RAM capacity. The more memories we accumulate and the more things we surround ourselves with that have to be managed, the less RAM is free to use for thinking. Sad but true. No wonder most people are going through life completely stressed out. There’s just TOO MUCH CRAP GOING ON in your life to give you a chance to relax your mind.
I, obviously, went to extremes with my Minimalism Challenge to myself. But I wanted to (and probably needed to) so I could really feel the difference and see what that was. And let me tell you, it’s AMAZING.
Do you know why so many of us think of CHILDHOOD as the best time in our lives? It’s because that’s the time when we had very little to WORRY about or STRESS over. We used our minds creatively and were only focused on a very small number of things:
- - What can I do to entertain myself today?
- - I wonder if he/she likes me.
- - I’m really enjoying learning this new stuff in my class.
- - I don’t feel like doing this homework.
- - Gee, I’m hungry, what’s to eat?
Okay, that was obviously over-simplified, but the point is, back then we had very little to truly stress about (at least most of the time) and our minds weren’t CLOGGED managing all sorts of material stuff we owned or worried about tons of obligations we had to manage.
Yet as adults we can have just as much fun as we had when we were kids. In fact, we can participate in certain activities (if we choose to) that we couldn’t as kids. So it’s definitely not about that that makes the difference.
More than anything it’s about TIME and having the freedom to enjoy ourselves more — and that comes down to many things like how we produce our incomes to live off of but also how we manage the rest of our time as well.
Of course, making more money will provide more freedom for you, but I truly believe you can gain a lot more freedom by FREEING UP YOUR LIFE from a lot of unnecessary things, and that’s one key point of this email.”
John shared how he felt his experiment had positively affected his outlook on business but at this point in my life I was more interested in his thoughts on how this experiment had changed his feelings on life. Interestingly the two seemed surprisingly intertwined which he summed up this way:
“YOUR SUCCESS (AND HAPPINESS) LIES WITHIN REDUCING YOUR LIFE, NOT ADDING TO IT”
“In summary, the key point I want to get across is that LESS IS MORE. Yes, that seems like an overused statement but it’s true.
If you minimize your life, you will maximize your Freedom Of Thought (as I like to call it), which will reduce your stress, and allow you to focus only on the most important things in your life – whether that’s your family, your business, or any other interest you have.
YOU are the architect of your life. If you want to ADD more of one area of your life then it’s 99.9% certain that you must TAKE AWAY from somewhere else. You must REDUCE something else in order to add more of what you want more of. It’s a simple and true equation.
Time is limited and so is our Mental Capacity. You have to learn to manage BOTH.
I challenge you to take some time to really write out where you spend all of your time, the things in your life that stress you out and overwhelm you, what consumes much of your thoughts, and see if you can’t REDUCE things from here and there or find ways to manage them better.
If you want MORE of anything in your life, it all starts with LESS of the other stuff.”
Sage advice from one so young! Having just reduced a lifetime of physical belongings by about 90% I could certainly relate to this. As it turns out that was the easy part but while considering the mental ‘stuff’ it occurred to me this is proving to be a bit harder to reduce. Family, pets, habits and patterns of thought, fear of the unknown and well meaning advice from those who do and do not care about you can be very difficult to sort out when you are making any kind of change in your life let alone a major one.
This very well may relate to being an entrepreneur but I think John may have discovered an even more valuable pearl of wisdom about life! I hope you find this as thought provoking as I have. Thanks John, I hope you don’t mind my sharing your valuable food for thought.
So how are you managing your time? Click this link, take this thought provoking quiz and find out! Were you as surprised as I was? I’d love to hear…
The Fourth Cup!
Are you having Coffee With Debi and Doug?
If so you won’t want to miss today’s discussion…
Debi and Doug talk about commitment for men and women ’of a certain age’ and Debi’s big decision to drastically alter her lifestyle!
Click HOW TO TALK TO A MAN OVER 50!
And have a listen!
Then be sure to come back and post your thoughts and your personal experiences around this subject. We’d love to hear…See you there!
P.S. Also want to let you know that the Positive Attitude Workshop site’s facelift is 98% complete so I hope you take a moment to visit! By the way the Serious Summer Sale, even though it’s not summer, will continue for another couple of weeks while the final touches to the site are completed. I hopeyou will take advantage of the ridiculously low prices on the 3-Step System to Revitalize Your Life, Goals and Relationships E-course and new CD! CLICK HERE NOW!
P.S.S. We are STILL trying to correct a couple of ‘bugs’ on the site… occasionally the ‘comment here’ link does not “light up” ;( – Not to worry , just click on the number of comments below or the “edit’ button and it will take you to the comment section!
How To Talk To A Man Over 50!
What Does Prince Charming Look Like?
A real man is a woman’s best friend. He will
never stand her up and never let her down.
He will reassure her when she feels insecure
and comfort her after a bad day.
He will inspire her to do things she never
thought she could do; to live without fear
and forget regret. He will enable her to
express her deepest emotions and give in to
her most intimate desires. He will make sure
she always feels as though she’s the most
beautiful woman in the room and will enable
her to be the most confident, sexy,
seductive, and invincible.
No wait… sorry… I’m thinking of wine.
It’s wine that does all that…….
Never mind.
Isn’t this just the perfect description of Prince Charming? The only thing missing is the white horse and the castle we get whisked away to, right?
Of course I think by now we all really know that this is not likely to happen, if it has for you then please go to your room now, but for most of us if someone like this DID happen to come around… well we all believe at the bare minimum this man would have our undying devotion and we would most certainly live happily ever after in total bliss. But getting back to reality, this often difficult and at times amusing ongoing quest for man and woman to understand each other has been a topic for contemplation since probably time began! How many experts, books, studies, remedies, counselors, psychiatrist and guru’s have tried to pin down the answer to this one? Oh, and don’t forget the number of successful and hilarious sitcoms on the subject. The truth is we are all so different with unique backgrounds, needs and wants but there is always one thing everyone seems to agree on; it’s about communication and the amazingly different ways women and men look at things and express themselves.
Introducing:
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In other words fun enlightened entertainment!
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See you there!
MILE MARKERS – are you counting?
It’s truly amazing and a little hard to believe I am a grandmother and my little girl and best friend is a very efficient loving creative Mother. I really do marvel at the job she is doing!
Saturday was my adorable granddaughter’s first ballet recital. Yup, a star is born. As I watched her confidently dancing in her beautiful blue costume my heart swelled with pride and joy. It seems like only yesterday it was my Lexi up there performing. Where did the time go?
Flowers? For me?
After the show as we filed out of the auditorium to wait with flowers for our little celebrity I ran into a couple of Alexis’s friends from high school, now with little stars of their own. It seems like only yesterday these very women were only girls whispering and giggling on the phone together. Where did the time go?
If I close my eyes, become very still and think back I can almost remember the feeling of being on the stage myself; the smell of backstage, the camaraderie of my fellow performers and the bonding ceremony of putting on our stage makeup. Where did the time go?
As my mother and I crowed about how fabulous our Kenzi did the conversation drifted to a time in my mother’s past when she danced for her father with her dance class at the veteran’s hospital, just before her father died. She still remembers her mother sewing special velvet dots on her costume wings when the other girls only had ink spots on their wings. Where did the time go?
As I write this post I wonder if Alexis knows how special these times are and is she really taking the time to really savor the moment. Not just the photo image but all the details of the glorious and juicy emotions of these mile markers. There will come a time when she will say where did the time go?
Mile markers, are you counting them? Are you really taking them in? Are you making moments?
But more importantly…is there something more you want to do? Is there something you’ve been waiting to do “when the time is right?” Don’t wait, time flies, do it now. Five or ten years from now you will be looking at photographs and saying, where did the time go?
Time is our most precious commodity. Find your passion. Unearth those buried desires and dreams and start now. If you wait for the perfect time it will never come.
“Don’t do nothing because you can’t do everything. Do something. Anything.”
Colleen Patrick-Goudreau
Deborah Hayes, CTA Life Coach
Empowering women to live a life of consequence, a life without regrets that is your own unique version of the life you love. About Deborah
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