The Fifth Cup!
Are you having Coffee with Debi and Doug?
If so you won’t want to miss today’s discussion…
Doug offers a rather tired and sensitive Debi some advice on just how to progress on her big decision to drastically alter her lifestyle!
Doug finally does it… he trips right over a giant land mine and he doesn’t even know he did it!! This is a classic representation of the glaring difference in how men and women communicate and the problems it can cause…
Our first disagreement…
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And have a listen!
Perhaps you could offer Doug a little advice on how to talk to a woman who is going through a new experience and a little tired and sensitive! We (I’d) love to hear…bless his heart.
See you there!
P.S. Also want to let you know that the Positive Attitude Workshop site’s facelift is 99.5% complete so I hope you’ll take a moment to visit! By the way the Serious Summer Sale, even though it’s not summer, will continue while the final touches to the site are completed and the Motivational Store has some of the coming inspirational goodies available! I hope you will take advantage of the ridiculously low prices on the 3-Step System to Revitalize Your Life, Goals and Relationships E-course and new CD! CLICK HERE NOW!
Change, Commitment and Memories
If you subscribe to my e-zine you have read the article I wrote about my commitment to alter my lifestyle. After hearing and reading about people who sold and got rid of all or at least most of their belongings to facilitate a freer lifestyle and create a new life, I have made the decision to do just that. California here I come!
Common area at one of the apartments I visited!
The thought of it is so exciting and indeed I am feeling very alive but the process has also brought a lot of personal insight that I did not expect. Of course change is inevitable and happens whether we want it to or not but I find this voluntary ‘purging’ has brought with it an avalanche of decisions, unexpected insights and a flood of options. Yes options! That’s the good news.
I am in the very first steps of the process which is code for ‘sell the house’ in an interesting market and of course get rid of a lifetime of stuff. In my fantasy I would simply call the painters, landscapers etc., they would descend on my house like in the home makeover reality shows and in a week there would be a ‘I’m gorgeous inside’ for sale sign in my front yard. The reality is I have just taken on three or four full time jobs! You see, in all those accounts of the New Life Change I read about, everything in between the decision and the happy outcome was not actually fully covered!
Yup, this purge thing brings new meaning to the self discovery process. Revelation One; as women of a certain age somewhere along the way we become the keepers of the family STUFF! These are things no one in the family wants to store; they are too precious for them to toss so the matriarch’s duty is to keep them for posterity. (no one ever sees them again for 30-40+ years) For instance, I find myself wondering how I wound up with the reel to reel 50’s movies of what I assume is my entire childhood; there is an additional 2-3 big boxes of photos of my daughter’s childhood, my first and second weddings and who knows what else! I honestly don’t even know if they are still good and I certainly don’t have the equipment, or time, to play the old movies … so what do you do with them? Just for fun, ask any of the members of the family if they want them and be sure to cover your ears and be prepared for the guilt trip if you divulge the imminent destiny for them…”you’re going to throw them away?” I must say it’s like a knife in the heart. Now multiply this by 1000 and be prepared for the softly spoken comment “I gave you that when I was 5 years old” as you go through the other lifetime of accumulated stuff! Long story short, just know there are moments when this is hard. I know, I know… I have already placed a ‘schedule a family photo box party’ somewhere on the ever growing list of to do’s and plan to write ‘come or forever hold your piece’ on the invite!
But for now I am practicing my own advice in Success Tip #7 which I will post here for those of you who do not subscribe to my e-zine. Even if you are not purging everything you own you will find it helpful, as I have, during any change you may be experiencing.
WEEKLY SUCCESS TIP #7
“The minute you alter your perception of yourself and your future, both you and your future begin to change.”
– Marilee Zdenek
During a transition focus on positive emotions!
During the course of our lives we all experience change. Sometimes these changes are planned and many times they are not. Regardless of the reason when you are in a period of transition here are 3 important tips from the conquering change audio series to remember:
- Change can cause us to question our long held beliefs and values which is a good thing because it keeps us growing and in touch with our evolving selves!
- Moving through change can be uncomfortable and feel awkward but it is the only way to move forward. Understanding these feelings are normal can help to keep you from retreating back into the status quo!
- Refusing to change does not mean that the world won’t change around you. Refusing to change means you’ll be left behind.
One of the most important things you can do when you are in the process of a change is to focus on your positive emotions and to “alter your perception of yourself and your future.” Here is an exercise that will enhance your ability to see yourself and future differently.
1) Imagine your new self at your very best. Imagination will help you set the stage for visualizing yourself in the future. Here’s a fun way to look at this. If you were in a cocoon, what kind of butterfly would emerge?
- When you imagine yourself at your best, what do you see?
- Do you see yourself healthy?
- Do you see yourself successful in the work you do?
- Do you see yourself having happy, nurturing relationships?
- When you imagine your best self, what are you doing?
- Are you learning something new?
- Are you on a new adventure – one that you’ve always longed for?
- Are you enjoying your family and close friends?
Even if you are not in the middle of a major change this exercise will keep you fresh and alert for possibilities. Change happens whether we like it or not. Life gives us opportunities every day and embrace change, to bounce back and to grow!
JUST TO ADD A COUPLE OF ITEMS OF ADVICE TO THIS:
Be sure to eat properly during this process. (Particularly the green stuff in the Fridge that you normally use for science research)
Get plenty of rest and be easy on yourself. Rome wasn’t built in a day and sometimes tomorrow is soon enough.
Realize there will be moments when you are overly tired and sensitive!
THIS BRINGS ME TO:
HOW TO TALK TO A MAN OVER 50!
Be sure to check back tomorrow for the recorded Coffee with Debi and Doug discussion. You won’t want to miss this one. Doug finally does it… he trips right over a giant land mine and he doesn’t even know he did it!! This is a classic representation of the glaring difference in how men and women communicate and the problems it can cause…
Our first disagreement…
Until tomorrow!
The Fourth Cup!
Are you having Coffee With Debi and Doug?
If so you won’t want to miss today’s discussion…
Debi and Doug talk about commitment for men and women ’of a certain age’ and Debi’s big decision to drastically alter her lifestyle!
Click HOW TO TALK TO A MAN OVER 50!
And have a listen!
Then be sure to come back and post your thoughts and your personal experiences around this subject. We’d love to hear…See you there!
P.S. Also want to let you know that the Positive Attitude Workshop site’s facelift is 98% complete so I hope you take a moment to visit! By the way the Serious Summer Sale, even though it’s not summer, will continue for another couple of weeks while the final touches to the site are completed. I hopeyou will take advantage of the ridiculously low prices on the 3-Step System to Revitalize Your Life, Goals and Relationships E-course and new CD! CLICK HERE NOW!
P.S.S. We are STILL trying to correct a couple of ‘bugs’ on the site… occasionally the ‘comment here’ link does not “light up” ;( – Not to worry , just click on the number of comments below or the “edit’ button and it will take you to the comment section!
The Third Cup!
Are you having Coffee With Debi and Doug?
If so you won’t want to miss today’s discussion…
Doug shares some insight into How to Get Him to Buy Me Flowers, without having to nag or remind him…or at least he tries to explain the male side!!!
Click HOW TO TALK TO A MAN OVER 50!
And have a listen!
Then be sure to come back and post your comments about Doug’s opinion and any questions you might have for him. See you there!
P.S. Also want to let you know that the Positive Attitude Workshop site is getting a ‘facelift.’ So consequently I have decided to extend the Serious Summer Sale, even though it’s not summer! I hope you will take advantage of the ridiculously low prices on the 3-Step System to Revitalize Your Life, Goals and Relationships E-course and new CD! CLICK HERE NOW!
P.S.S. We are STILL trying to correct a couple of ‘bugs’ on the site… occasionally the ‘comment here’ link does not “light up” ;( – Not to worry , just click on the number of comments below or the “edit’ button and it will take you to the comment section!
Deborah Hayes, CTA Life Coach
Empowering women to live a life of consequence, a life without regrets that is your own unique version of the life you love. About Deborah
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