The Second Cup!
Join us for a second cup of
Coffee With Debi and Doug
If you happened to miss last week’s coffee break, Coffee with Debi and Doug is about the often difficult and at times amusing ongoing quest for man and woman to understand each and the amazingly different ways women and men look at things and express themselves! No small task but Doug is the gentleman who has agreed to share his opinion of the unabridged version of what goes on in the minds of men, in a frank honest often humorous, eye opening way. So far he has more than delivered and he does it again this week when we discuss that Silent Thing men occasionally do that DRIVES us CRAZY!
Click HOW TO TALK TO A MAN OVER 50!
And have a listen!
Then be sure to come back and post your comments about Doug’s opinion and any questions you might have for him. See you there!
P.S. By the way, don’t forget this is the last day to take advantage of the Serious Summer Sale and your last opportunity to take advantage of ridiculously low prices on the 3-Step System to Revitalize Your Life, Goals and Relationships E-course and new CD! CLICK HERE NOW!
P.S.S. We are in the process of trying to correct a couple of ‘bugs’ on the site… occasionally the ‘comment here’ link does not “light up” ;( – Not to worry , just click on the number of comments below and it will take you to the comment section!
Weekly Success Tip
“I believe that everything happens for a reason. People change so that you can learn to let go. Things go wrong so that you appreciate them when they go right. You believe lies so you eventually learn to trust no one but yourself, and sometimes good things fall apart, so that better things can fall together.”
~Marilyn Monroe~
Learn when to let go!
There is a difference between a Challenge and Futility. One is invigorating and the other is depleting. If you find yourself consistently lacking time, money, energy, joy or inspiration chances are good something in your life is not working for you and it might be time to let go and discover what is right for you. Sometimes we get so focused on trying to succeed we fail to realize there might be a reason something isn’t working! Here is a little exercise to help you turn on the lights!
Exercise: What’s Your Satisfaction Temperature?
Take some quiet time in a place where you are comfortable and not likely to be interrupted. On a sheet of paper write the following questions down and on a scale of 1-10, one being completely unsatisfied and 10 being perfectly content, place your score beneath each question. Put a little thought into the questions and be as honest with yourself as possible but don’t over think it.
1. How satisfied are you with your life overall?
2. How much fun are you having in your life?
3. How happy are you in your current career?
4. How overwhelmed, busy or cluttered do you currently feel?
Next go back to each of these questions and identify which of the following you would need to make you happier or more satisfied with the particular aspect of your life the question refers to. (There can be more than one for each question and add your own description if you have one.) Write the descriptive words under the question next to your rating.
• To be accepted
• To be acknowledged
• To have peace
• To be cared for
• To be loved
• To have order
• To be needed
• To have recognition
• To be free
• To accomplish
• To control
• To be comfortable
Last step:
Now go back and define what each of the terms you applied to the questions means to you? If you wrote to be accepted, define what exactly would make you feel accepted and why it is important to you. Try to define as clearly as possible what the term means to you with regards to the question you applied it to.
Have a fabulous week!
How To Talk To A Man Over 50!
What Does Prince Charming Look Like?
A real man is a woman’s best friend. He will
never stand her up and never let her down.
He will reassure her when she feels insecure
and comfort her after a bad day.
He will inspire her to do things she never
thought she could do; to live without fear
and forget regret. He will enable her to
express her deepest emotions and give in to
her most intimate desires. He will make sure
she always feels as though she’s the most
beautiful woman in the room and will enable
her to be the most confident, sexy,
seductive, and invincible.
No wait… sorry… I’m thinking of wine.
It’s wine that does all that…….
Never mind.
Isn’t this just the perfect description of Prince Charming? The only thing missing is the white horse and the castle we get whisked away to, right?
Of course I think by now we all really know that this is not likely to happen, if it has for you then please go to your room now, but for most of us if someone like this DID happen to come around… well we all believe at the bare minimum this man would have our undying devotion and we would most certainly live happily ever after in total bliss. But getting back to reality, this often difficult and at times amusing ongoing quest for man and woman to understand each other has been a topic for contemplation since probably time began! How many experts, books, studies, remedies, counselors, psychiatrist and guru’s have tried to pin down the answer to this one? Oh, and don’t forget the number of successful and hilarious sitcoms on the subject. The truth is we are all so different with unique backgrounds, needs and wants but there is always one thing everyone seems to agree on; it’s about communication and the amazingly different ways women and men look at things and express themselves.
Introducing:
HOW TO TALK TO A MAN OVER 50
- What it IS:
- The unabridged version of what goes on in the minds of men, (from a real live normal man) that delivers frank honest often humorous, eye opening, oh my god you’ve got to be kidding he thinks that, possibly change my ways or die alone kick in the ….talk… and then there’s OUR side!
In other words fun enlightened entertainment!
In my last ezine I asked for questions you might find interesting and I want to thank all of you who took the time to participate. VERY FUN… so now
Here it is…your first peek into the mind of the other side. Click HOW TO TALK TO A MAN OVER 50!
See you there!
I’m Having WAY Too Much Fun With This!
Ok, ok, please be patient with me. Some of you may have noticed that I did not post a success tip this week… so in lieu of the weekly tip and in preparation for the upcoming feature…
HOW TO TALK TO A MAN OVER 50… I thought you might enjoy this:
Yes, this is a hint about what we might be talking about on our first Coffee Date! Oh my, we’ve come a long way baby.
Don’t forget to join me here on Thursday, September 23, 2010!
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PSST…It’s almost here!
How to Talk to a Man Over 50!
REGARDLESS OF OUR AGE
Women love to talk – Men do or don’t do which creates:
For men: 5 – 10 minutes of thought
For women: weeks of conversation
My Mission – to cajole one man to divulge the uncensored answers to any and all of our questions about
What Goes On In The Minds of Men
And finally resolve our curiosity and angst.
Meet the Mystery Man and let the party begin.
When: September 23, 2010
Where: Wherever your computer is!
What to bring: Your Questions and sense of humor!
Submit your questions in the comments section below or email them to me at deborah@womenintranstiononline.com
See you there!
Weekly Success Tip #5
Success Tip of the Week#5
“ I would much rather have regrets about not doing what people said, than regretting not doing what my heart led me to and wondering what life had been like if I’d just been myself.”
Brittany Renee (English Author and Dancer)
Know Yourself
One of the central steps to success and happiness is to know what is truly important to you …now. We all live at such a pace and encounter so many changes in our life it’s so helpful to stop, discover and appreciate what our unique version of the world is. Without this knowledge you can never make the right decisions for you. Take some time to reflect on what is important to you in life and make sure your actions match your true values. Regardless of what you discover until these things are in alignment no amount of action will work!
Take Some Time for Introspection:
This week try to steal some time for yourself and write (best) or at least think about what’s working in your life now and what isn’t. This exercise might give you some real insight as to the reasons why!
Have a fabulous week!
P.S. Be sure to watch for the coming New Fun Feature: How to Talk to a Man Over 50! This is shaping up to be very interesting and I will be sharing some more juicy details later this week! Remember, this new feature is about YOU and your questions and so far they have been great. I have received everything from silly, “why isn’t he willing to shave off his sideburns to make me happy?”, to the more serious, “just what role do men see themselves playing in a relationship these days?” To add your questions to the list simply click deborah@womenintransitiononline.com and email them to me or you can add it below in the comment section!
P.S.S. Remember when we take responsibility for our own happiness and success things really begin to happen. The perfect time to invest in YOU is NOW during the Serious Summer Sale. CLICK HERE NOW!
Success Tip of the Week #4 and MORE
I hope you all enjoyed your long weekend and managed to have some fun and relaxation.
Interestingly this week’s tip fell on Labor Day so I thought it might be fun to deliver it on Tuesday and share a valuable lesson I learned this weekend.
Labor Day signals the end of summer and the weather here in Arizona is finally cooling off. We’re not quite there yet but the early mornings have been pleasant and cooler which is a sure sign that another beautiful winter is finally on its way. It has been a long hot summer and much has been happening here at WITO. As I sat down to write this week’s Success Tip it reminded me of the old days in school when we were all asked to write a report on how we spent our summer vacation. As I pondered this I began to realize just how much has occurred in these summer months!
- A large number of fabulous creative powerful women who dance to the same beat of the drum as I do have joined the WITO Community. In fact the numbers of you have doubled since April and most of it as a result of good old fashion word of mouth. I have had the honor and privilege to personally work with a number of you and celebrate your successes. Thanks to all of you!
- I created all the content and launched, with your wonderful input, the 21 Day Attitude Adjustment e-course.
- I just finished recording and producing my first CD, The 21 Day Attitude Adjustment CD. Both of these tasks required me to tackle and learn numerous technical skills which were previously on the “SCARY” list. (oh for a staff or the more popular term…team)
- I have written numerous articles a few of which were featured on the homepages of large self growth sites.
- I have recently been invited to co-host a teleseminar with a popular published author, (more on this soon) and have recently been approached by other self improvement experts with Joint Venture proposals.
- I am very excited about a new venture I have been working on which will be coming soon. I briefly talked about it in my last e-zine: How to Talk to a Man Over 50! This promises to be as fun for you as it has been for me in the making of it! After an arduous search I finally discovered the perfect person (man) to divulge the unabridged version of what goes on in the minds of men!! I will be filling everyone in on all the juicy details soon but I still am looking for MORE questions. So isn’t there something you are just dying to know? The questions so far have been great and I think some of the answers will surprise you! Please keep them coming and email me your questions at deborah@womenintransitiononline.com
What does any of this have to do with the tip of the week? You see there is a very valuable lesson in this that we can all learn from.
As I sat down to write this week’s tip I realized my energy was a little low. Well, ok it was very low and I felt very uninspired and a bit overwhelmed. Even though these milestones might seem small to some they were each wrought with hours of experimentation, research and often frustration. There were many times during this long summer when I was in a word, discouraged at what appeared to me as lack of progress. There were many times when well intentioned people who genuinely care about me offered their gentle suggestions that I should “go back to what I knew” or find something more secure. But each time I listened to some of this “advice” I tried to picture myself doing anything else and I just couldn’t see it. Each time I was ready to concede and perhaps through in the towel something encouraging would occur and lift my confidence and resolve and reassure me of my original purpose. Each time there was a tiny glimpse of what could be.
But here is the interesting part. It really wasn’t apparent to me just how much I had accomplished in three short months until I took the time to sit down and write it all down. It was then that it occurred to me how much I had accomplished and the many lessons I had learned over these summer months. There are way too many to list in this brief article but the biggest thing and what I think is the most important is this:
It is so easy to become discouraged and fall victim to turning our focus on what we don’t have and what we don’t do right that it blinds us to the bigger number of things we do right every day. When we allow this to happen it can begin to appear that we are not doing well when in reality we have accomplished so very much. We often don’t take the time to notice and celebrate our many successes. I am willing to bet the number of your successes far outweigh the small number of “perceived defeats.” In looking only at those perceived defeats you have made them into mountains when they are really only mole hills.
So this week’s tip; focus on all your successes and triumphs, all of them. Write them down and with the intention that nothing is too small. Your list should be really long. When you finish I think you’ll find those successes that seem small to you in comparison to your goal may be huge to someone else who has yet to take the first step. Write them down and read them over again and again. The secret to your inspiration and positive attitude will be in these words!
Now for the MORE!
If you don’t subscribe to my e-zine here are a couple of important updates!!!
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Deborah Hayes, CTA Life Coach
Empowering women to live a life of consequence, a life without regrets that is your own unique version of the life you love. About Deborah
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