Success Tip of the Week #3
Success Tip of the Week: Stress Reducer #3
“There is something in every one of you that waits and listens for the sound of the genuine in yourself. It is the only true guide you will ever have. And if you cannot hear it, you will all of your life spend your days on the ends of strings that somebody else pulls.” ~Howard Thurman
PLEASING EVERYONE
Is it stressful? Well… not only is it stressful it’s also impossible and yet we often find ourselves in the habit of trying to do this very thing. Oddly enough the more we try to please everyone else the less happy we are, the further away from ourselves we grow and the more people we irritate. No one really wins!
Learn To Say “No”:
This week practice the power of simply saying no to those things you either don’t really have the time for or simply don’t want to do! You may lose a few people you thought were your friends but in the end you will find yourself surrounded by people who choose to be in your life because they love who you really are! This is a formula for a happy life.
Have a Fabulous Week!
Success Tip of the Week #2
Success Tip of the Week: Stress Reducer #2
“Once you accept the fact that you’re not perfect, then you develop some confidence.” ~Rosalynn Carter
Perfection
One of the biggest causes of stress is an obsession for perfection. Of course we all want to do and be our best but obsessing about perfection, (an impossible objective) is a sure fire way to create stress in our lives. It stunts our creativity and damages our self esteem which makes it impossible for us to focus on our best self and what we can become!
Get Real With Yourself:
This week take a moment to get real with yourself about your expectations not only with yourself but other people in your life, events and experiences as well. As we discussed in the 6-part Conquering Change Audio Series, focusing on your “best self” will help you move from the past into the future and has the ability to change your life.
Remember there are changes you can control and changes that you can’t. Actively think about recognizing and letting go of those things that are out of your control. You will have a lot less stress and you will be far more happy, productive and successful.
Have a Fabulous Week!
Success Tip of the Week:
Success Tip of the Week: Stress Reducer
“Never wrestle with a Pig, You just get dirty and the pig LIKES it!”
Author unknown – but I heard this from my very wise grandmother.
Stress is a problem for all of us and those small disagreements that pop into our lives throughout the day can create even more of it. In addition to putting a damper on our day and attitude, prolonged stress is really bad for our health! Here’s a tip to help you avoid these pesky incidents:
Stop Arguing
Arguing is a complete waste of time, no one ever really wins and it creates a mountain of unnecessary stress in our lives. Many times conflict and arguments occur when someone begins to feel they are not being respected or heard. The next time you find yourself in a disagreement with someone or in a situation where a real resolution is not going to happen try this simple technique:
Validate the Theory
With this method you agree with someone’s theory without agreeing that it applies to you! Here’s an example:
Criticism: You’re buying more shoes? You already have enough shoes and you don’t even wear the ones you have. You should be saving your money for necessities and a rainy day. Someday you’re going to need it and you’ll wish you hadn’t spent it all on frivolous things. You should be saving your money.
Response: You’re right; I do have a lot of shoes. If a rainy day comes it would be good to have some saved money.
Using this method you have made them feel respected and heard by validating and acknowledging their theory without necessarily agreeing to it! Everyone is happy and you won’t waste your time and energy arguing about something you will probably not agree on anyway!
The Difference
Hi everyone,
I felt I just had to share this…
Something very interesting happened to me last week and I thought would be perfect for a Food For Thought Video.
…I call it The Difference!
So now I ask you the question that I asked myself after this encounter…
What is the difference between these two gentlemen? How is it that one is so unconcerned and unaffected by his age while the other who is actualy 7 years his junior is so resigned to his age and convinced of its limitations?
What are your thoughts? Please share…I would love to hear from you.
To your dreams and possibilities,
Deborah
Deborah Hayes, CTA Life Coach
Empowering women to live a life of consequence, a life without regrets that is your own unique version of the life you love. About Deborah
deborah@womenintransitiononline.com
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