I interrupt this series for an important announcement…

THE NEWS:

NEXT!!!!!

 

Remember that lifestyle change I spoke of before? Well I have some news about another one!  As I have said in the past there is an interesting side effect from most transformations or lifestyle changes:

 

 

Once you start you can’t seem to stop!

 

You see when we make changes it’s only natural to find new feelings that can lead to new discoveries and personal insights about what we like, need and want. Change can cause us to question our long held beliefs and values.

That certainly rang true for me, some of the new insights I’ve experienced were not easily accepted and left me feeling uncomfortable, awkward and even unsure at times. However once I moved forward I  realized something important I’d like to share with you;

 

Not liking certain aspects about a decision and it’s resulting circumstance DOES NOT MEAN FAILURE!

 

Many times when we make a move, change a profession or lifestyle we mistakenly believe by changing our environment everything will be different and great; a vague feeling or personal belief that certain things will be better, more pleasant and inspiring in fresh surroundings. Oddly enough often we unwittingly wind up taking with us the very things we felt we had outgrown or wanted to change in the first place!

Now there have been many inspiring and exciting aspects about my personal lifestyle change that I am enjoying. One of them is the very new realization of a bolstered confidence. A feeling that ‘change’ doesn’t have to be connected with fear; fear of failure, fear of making a mistake or fear that I might not be able to alter parts of my decision if I choose to. On the contrary, I found the ability to change, adapt and move forward has offered me some new and wonderful opportunities that I would never have considered possible before.

 

 

MY REVELATION:

One of the revelations I discovered was while I have loved and enjoyed the process of building the Women In Transition Community, and especially connecting with you, the time has come for me to try something new.  So I did a little soul searching and experimenting and came to the following conclusion:

Throughout the many transformations and changes in my life there has been one underlying and unfulfilled dream; to be able to work with and make the lives of animals better. During all the work and living there has also been a home life that has always included pets. Never less than three and often…well, too many. All have been rescued, all have been loved and some have been helped to find the right forever home.

 

THE ANNOUNCEMENT:

So with the latest lifestyle change came the decision and opportunity to create just such a business…Your Dog On A Walk.com, dog walking, pet sitting and lot more! This new endeavor is my opportunity to connect with and enrich the lives of many animals and the people they love.

 

WHY DO I SHARE THIS?

While I am excited to continue my new journey I cannot seem to imagine not connecting with you in some way. Although my posts will be infrequent, it is my hope that Women In Transition Online remains a place where Women of a Certain Age can connect, conspire and forge sustaining relationships while transitioning into another phase of life.

Therefore, I invite those of you who are interested in sharing your thoughts, triumphs and questions to the community to:

Submit guest posts; write an article, email it to me and I will post it.

Start conversations about subjects important to you; email me a paragraph about what you want to talk about with your contemporaries. I’ll post it for you.

It is my hope that all of you will make this your own community. A place to communicate, vent and enjoy! So don’t be a stranger and connect with your community today…email me at:

deborah@womenintranstiononline.com

So, What’s on your mind? Let’s talk! Send it today!!

 

AND LASTLY:

I know many of you are animal lovers just as I am. (You know who your are!) I would love for you to visit me at my new site, www.yourdogonawalk.com. Send me pictures and stories of you and your precious pet family member. I’d love to share them!  You’ll also find awesome resources for you and your pets.

Natural Wonder ProductsI love my vet but as it is with humans, NATURAL remedies are best whenever possible! I have found an amazing company…their mission:

“Our mission here at Natural Wonder Pets is to create and deliver directly to you the most wholesome, purely natural pet health care products your hard earned money can buy.”

They are not kidding!  From Arthritis and cancer to hot spots and tear stains this site is filled with easy to understand information on a number of pet maladies and the best natural  products to help! Click the link and check them out.

How about some affordable, WELL MADE Bling!
 This company sepcializes in quality dog clothing, dog accessories and dog jewelry. Their designers have created unique one of a kind dog clothes at very affordable prices AND their dog jewelry is handmade! The holidays are coming and it’s the ideal time to spruce up your pet’s wardrobe! Click the link and take a look!!

 

 

You can also connect with me (and like :)) my new facebook page:

www.facebook.com/YourDogOnAWalk

 

 

 

 

Hope to see you there!

To your hopes, dreams and possibilities

Deborah

 

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September 24, 2012 · Filed Under Special announcement · Comments Off 

Do you know what’s on YOUR face?

You might be surprised. To be honest…I never really gave much thought to what was in the products I used on my face until recently. It’s not that I hadn’t heard rumblings about the presence of harmful chemicals in our skin care products and cosmetics but I never really took the time to investigate. I suppose I figured if it was really harmful it wouldn’t be on the market, right? Most of what is written on those labels would seem to require a chemistry background to fully understand what they were! That is until now.

 

Recently I have been doing a fair amount of research about what is in the skin care and cosmetic products we all use day after day, year after year and quite frankly I think it deserves our attention. It seems like such a small amount we use each day but when we consider the number of years we use these products it can add up to a frightening amount.

 

The number of harmful ingredients is alarming and it is not just in our cosmetics. Soaps, shampoo and toothpastes all can contain ingredients that are know to cause a number of “serious adverse health effects.”

 

I think most of us are coming to the conclusion that eating more organic pesticide-free foods is an important avenue for a healthier longer life but the reality is ANYTHING we put on our skin or hair is also absorbed into our bodies! In fact skin absorption is so potent that medicines are increasingly administered in skin patch form.

 

The list of these ingredients is long and can be found all over the internet but I thought surely it must be in only a few of the products I have used. However the information peeked my curiosity enough to take my investigation a bit further.

 

As an experiment I took a few of my old skin care products ranging from inexpensive to an all out splurge, found one of the more comprehensive lists of harmful ingredients online and a large magnifying glass and put it to the test. Wow, was I ever surprised! Virtually all of them had a number of the ingredients from the list. What quantity of these chemicals were in each of my products? Who knows? Either way it was enlightening and disturbing.

 

 

Want to try this yourself? Here’s a link to a pretty comprehensive list of harmful ingredients you might find in YOUR skin care and cosmetics! Dig out some of your favorite products and take a look!

WHAT TO DO?

 

That was my next question, too! Over the past few months I have been sampling and testing various Organic Natural Skin Care Products. I have always thought that Natural or Organic products were expensive and probably limited. Was I ever wrong. Of course, as with anything there are always some lines that are very expensive but to my surprise I found you can purchase excellent organic products that provide the same results as the more expensive lines! (if not better).

 

I have found just such a skin care line.


Alchemilla, Ultra-Pure Skin Care


 

 

 

This product is a delight to use. It is the first time I have used a skin care product that makes my skin not only look good…but feel good. It contains no parabens, sulfates, dyes, synthetic fragrances, mineral oils, pthalates or toxic chemicals. It is pure, organic and yes, it’s 100% Certified Cruelty Free! I love that!! I also appreciate that it is ‘hand-crafted’ and in small batches so I know that it is never old.

 

Can you tell that I love this product? The funny thing is after using and enjoying this skin care product I remembered a time in my life that should have converted me to organic skin care long ago. I will share that story next time but in the mean time…if you’ve been thinking about converting to a more natural approach to your skin care and avoiding the toxins that pollute your body I hope you’ll CLICK THIS LINK or the photo above  and see for yourself! For me this difference is balancing my skin instead of treating the surface!

 

As always, if you choose to make the switch I hope you’ll share your thoughts and experiences on going organic. I’d love to hear them.

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August 17, 2012 · Filed Under Health · Comments Off 

The Good News About Skincare, Hormones and Aging!

Like many of you, I’ve had a number of birthdays and have always believed it isn’t the number that counts, it’s about your mindset and how you feel. We have all seen it; some people are very old at the age of 30 and some 70 year olds look and act much younger than their years. I like to count myself among the latter of the two groups but this year I felt the need to stop and take a good long look at my lifestyle, eating habits and generally how I have been caring for all aspects of my health. In other words…just how good do I feel?

 

The end result of this little audit brought some surprises! The first of which was how dull my skin looked. I must have been subconsciously noticing this for quite a while because a quick look under my bathroom sink provided some interesting evidence. Apparently over the last few years I have been purchasing a large number of skin care products that promised to bring back that dewey look to my skin along with wrinkle reduction and anything else my little heart desired. The number of these half used products in my possession is more than enough evidence to reveal the results of these products.

 

Now I know that genes play an important roll in how our skin looks, as well as our bodies, and that over time those certain undeniable changes will occur but I wondered if it were not possible to improve the texture and look of my skin in a natural way?

 

photo from www.openphoto.com

 

 

THE RESEARCH:

 

What’s really happening? – The short version:

 

All of us lose about a million skin cells every 40 minutes until we reach our 30th birthday. This sloughing process is what gives our skin that dewy youthful look. According to Dr. Kathy Fields, assistant clinical professor of dermatology at UCSF “for the first few decades, your epidermis renews itself every 30 days, but by the time you’re 40, it takes about 45 days.” Over time this natural aging process will continue and skin cells will reproduce more and more slowly.

 

Okay, that explains the reason for aging dull skin but is there anything short of cosmetic surgery that can truly help? Yes! actually there is!!

 

According to many experts who aren’t a part of the business of selling us miracle wrinkle creams and serums the science behind skin care is simpler than most of us think. The key is a healthy lifestyle and many of the suggestions I found will benefit your heart, help control your weight and improve your energy and mood as well.

 

As I researched I was enthused at the sheer volume of positive news on this subject. One article is certainly not going to cover it all but what follows are

Eight of the best suggestions I found:

 

Diet – A proper diet was mentioned by almost all the experts I researched. In fact most claim a skin healthy diet is essential for beautiful skin no matter what you put on your face. As we age this factor is more important than ever. It is recommended we eat five servings of fruits and vegetables every day, and three daily servings of whole grains along with two servings of fish every week for our health in general but the types of foods that are good for the skin and hair are high in antioxidants, omega 3 fatty acids and vitamins C and E.

 

Keep skin hydrated – The first thing that comes to mind is water, right? To my surprise although drinking 8 glasses of water each day is definitely good for us, when it comes to hydrating our skin that method isn’t the best. According to Katie Rodan, a dermatologist in the San Francisco Bay area and a coauthor of Write Your Skin a Prescription for Change. “water doesn’t go straight to the skin,” she says. “It goes through the intestines, gets absorbed into your bloodstream, and is filtered by kidneys. Then it hydrates cell.” Eating foods that are rich in omega-3 fatty acids can help skin cells stay hydrated such as:

Walnuts * Flaxseed Olive oil

Almonds* Sardines Salmon

Sunflower seeds* Anchovies Eggs

 

*These nuts are high in vitamin E, the vitamin that reduces skin flare-ups!

Antioxidants – Incorporate foods and herbs that are high in antioxidants. We’ve all heard this and it seems popular with products all over the grocery stores have plastered the “high in antioxidant” phrase on their labels. It’s easier to incorporate this into your diet naturally than you might think. Here’s a list from a number of sources that are easy to find and include in your daily meals:

 

FRUITS

Prunes Kiwi

Sweet cherries Oranges

Cranberries Grapefruit

Raspberries Blackberries

Strawberries Blueberries

 

Fruits high in vitamin C stimulates the production of collagen in the body and can help maintain the skins firmness. Another great source of antioxidants is the SWEET POTATO!

 

 

HERBS AND SPICES

Cinnamon (dried and ground)

Cloves (dried and ground)

Oregano (dried)

Ginger (dried and ground)

Basil (dried)

Paprika (dried and ground)

Black Pepper (dried and ground)

 

And of course I don’t have to tell anyone that Red Wine is high in antioxidants!

 

 

Avoid Inflammatory foods like sugar, refined flours, trans fats, and overly processed food. A high-sugar diet can age skin cells dramatically according to Marcelle Pick OB/GYN NP. She and a number of other experts recommend eating organic as often as possible. It’s no secret the number of pesticides and chemicals that can be found in the foods we eat on a regular basis! I am really enjoying all the farmers markets available here in California. I was also surprised to find the difference in taste!

 

Stress – We’ve heard again and again how bad stress is for our bodies and well being. In my research I discovered stress causes and overproduction of the hormone cortisol which can lead to exhausted adrenal glands, increased body fat, a higher risk of high blood pressure and many other problems. According to an article in Beauty Advice . org “ In periods of stress your breathing alters, becoming quicker and more shallow. This reduces the amount of oxygen carried in your bloodstream, which in turn diminishes the oxygen supply to your skin. If the stress is long­lasting, you may find that your skin becomes pasty or gray, it lacks glow, and you have tension lines around the forehead, eyes, and mouth.” However you look at it, reducing stress in your life is not only important for your skin but all aspects of your health!

 

 

Meditation – Can it help? Many experts praise the benefits of meditation. It is said to reduce stress, promote relaxation, boost memory, concentration and mood. According to Sharon Basaraba in an article in About.com “Meditating has been shown to bolster the immune system and reduce levels of cortisol.” In addition to all that, I believe it is absolutely the best way to start a day; calm, centered and filled with a positive sense of purpose!

 

 

 

7. Sunscreen – I’m originally from the desert where the sun shines literally 360 days a year and temperature soars The damaging effects for unprotected skin are taken quite seriously there! But no matter where you live all the experts agree this is one of the most damaging elements to our skin. Be sure to apply a good sunscreen daily no matter where you live.

 

Back to Organic – Here’s another tip from Marcelle Pick “ Look for the most natural skin care products you can find. Avoid those products that contain harmful substances like propylene glycol, phthalates, sodium lauryl sulfate, and parabens.” (Look for more on this next week!)

 

So what changes did I make? The first thing I did was to decide to make some changes with regards to my diet. I felt I would reap the best benefit from this and I knew it would help with the second big change I’ve noticed. A SLOWER METABOLISM.

 

I am now eating lean baked or grilled meat, introducing more fish into my diet and a lot more vegetables. I have never eaten a lot of fruit but that is showing up on my plate more often now as well.

 

I am shopping at farmers markets more and eating as much organic and local fruit and vegetables as possible. Given the number of wonderful farmers markets here this has been easier than I imagined. Organic and home grown vegetables taste amazingly better than produce from the grocery stores.

 

The only thing I have had a little problem with is in order to really eat healthy one needs to cook! Now that’s something I am having to get in the habit of doing. However I am finding it really doesn’t take that much more time and I’m discovering there are great quick, easy healthy meals if you take the time to find them. Hopefully I will create a new HABIT…cooking!!! Fish, other than canned tuna was never a part of my diet or cooking skills so I must admit I am struggling with this a bit. Any helpful hints and recipes you can offer will be greatly appreciated!

 

Lastly, I am meditating each morning. A great way to start the day…centered and balanced.

 

It’s been almost a month now and I must say I am pleased with the results and can highly recommend making the effort regardless of your age. All the experts agree not only is it never too late…sooner is better than later!

 

Are you ready for a change? I would love to hear what you feel you’d like to change and how it works for you. Share your knowledge and comment here.

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July 25, 2012 · Filed Under Health · Comments Off 

Care to Join Me?

Want  to join me for the FREE Chopra Center

  Free to Love 21- Day Meditation Challenge?

 

 

Living Healthy

 

It starts TOMORROW! Sorry for the late notice but you still have time to sign up. I have participated in two of these free meditation series and I can tell you this is a beautiful way to start a day.

 

It’s very easy to do, they are delivered to your email each morning for 21 Days so you can do them at your leisure. With the Feeling Good – Looking Good Series about to start I thought this might be a wonderful addition.

 

This is one habit you’ll definitely want to keep! So if you’d like to join me click on the link below to register!

Register Today!

 

 

Have a beautiful Sunday! and as they say….

 

Namaste

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July 15, 2012 · Filed Under Special announcement · Comments Off 

From 1 – 10, How Good Do You Feel?

Recently I was browsing through a magazine while waiting for mom at her doctor’s office and I stumbled upon one of those ‘this is what fill in the age looks like’ and what they do to stay looking fabulous. Generally I scan these articles as I find them typically about women who definitely look fabulous but likely are about women whose livelihoods have depended on their ability to stay young. However this short article caught my attention because it featured women whose lives I could more easily relate to.

One in particular was a very attractive and healthy looking woman about 60 years of age who was pictured in front of a fence that held her passion and livelihood. She raised horses and from her photo it was apparent that not only was she down to earth but she looked healthy in all respects; beautiful posture, healthy skin and hair, confident body language and was clearly in good physical condition.  As I read her secret for staying healthy and looking good I was surprised to read the simple but sound advice she sticks with.

She said each year she took the time to assess how her body was feeling, what was working well for her and what might need tweaking or changing;whether that be diet, skincare, exercise or lifestyle change. It was actually brilliantly simple and clearly effective and it really got me thinking.

I think we all familiar with the role hormones and estrogen play in how we look and feel as time goes by. The short version of the story is when hormones decline aging accelerates and many women can experience some of the following symptoms:

 

  1. Hot Flashes, night sweats or both
  2. Mood Swings
  3. Anxiety
  4. Water retention
  5. Weight gain often on the abdomen!
  6. Increased facial hair
  7. Thinning skin and wrinkles
  8. Bone loss
  9. Memory loss

 

AND MORE but enough of that. This series is not going to be an exhaustive report on hormonal imbalance and it’s effects on aging. Each of us has our own unique rhythm and we understand our needs better than anyone. I think most of us take pretty good care of ourselves when we get the time and I consider myself in that same category. But after a little pondering on the subject I had to ask myself how long it had been since I really took a look at all those the little changes over the years that I simply noticed and chalked up to just part of the deal? These days there is a lot of new information and many natural ways to improve how we feel and look.

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The good news is that many of the causes of aging can be modified simply by adjusting our behaviors:

  • What we eat
  • How we move our bodies
  • And maintaing our mental fitness

 

According to Mark Stibich, Ph.D in an article about longevity we don’t have to just accept the aging process and observe the changes as they occur.  Paying attention to our bodies, how we feel and making the small adjustments as needed can dramatically alter how we look and feel as the years go by.

“Lifestyle factors have also been shown to extend life. Rats and mice on a calorie restricted diet (30 percent fewer daily calories) live up to 40 percent longer. Positive thinking has also been shown to extend life in people by up to 7.5 years.”

Hmmm. Sounds good to me!  So what’s next?

 

The first step is to spend a little uninterrupted time thinking about how you really feel. I started one morning as I first woke. I like that time because I have yet to be distracted by the days activities but no matter when you do it try to find a time when you mind is quiet and you won’t be interrupted.

 

I wrote a list of the four areas above but feel free to add to this list if there are other areas you’d like to assess. Here is just some of what I considered:

 

  • Skincare: What changes have I noticed and how well are my current skin care products performing.
  • Weight Maintenance: I definitely have noticed my metabolism has changed. Is my diet  and how I eat affecting not only my weight  but also my energy level?
  • Exercise: Is it time to do a bit more than a morning walk? Do I feel as flexible as I used to. I also took a hard look at my posture and how I move lately. Where are my weak spots?
  • Mindset: How’s my thinking lately. How’s my attitude and what have I been saying to myself? Am I procrastinating and not moving forward on some goals I wanted to implement?

 

You get the idea. Write as much as you like about each subject you selected. You will be surprised at how this list can illuminate subtle changes that have crept into your life and how addressing them could enhance how you look and feel.

 

So here it is…I am motivated, inspired and ready to discover ways to Look Better, Feel Better and Rejuvenate all areas of my life and I’m once again looking for fellow wise worldly creative adventurous women who believe, as I do, this is a very special time and want to live it special!

 

 

Join us, Participate, Open Those Emails and Share Your Thoughts!

 

To your hopes, dreams and possibilities

 

Deborah

 

BTW: I’d love to hear which areas you are most interested in improving AND any information you’ve discovered on how to make the change! Share your thoughts in the comment section or email me at deborah@womenintransitiononline.com

 

P.S. For those of you who subscribe to my E-zine and read about the amazing benefits of drinking Green Tea…As promised here’s my favorite Brand of Organic Green Tea (so far)

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Didn’t get the E-zine? Subscribe today, it’s easy. Simply fill in the information in the green box, no pun intended, at the top right corner of the page! Join us and you’ll get ALL the news.

 

 

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June 18, 2012 · Filed Under Health · Comments Off 

Mother’s Day Memories!

IT WAS A BEAUTIFUL DAY

My Beautiful Grandaughter and Mother

Mother’s Day has come and gone and as I sit in the afterglow
of the moment I know there is no way I can let this special day for ‘women’
pass without saying something witty and clever, right? Of course we are all
incredible and extraordinary but as I sat down to pen my thoughts to paper I
thought…what could I possibly write that hasn’t already been said?

Mother’s Day can have a very different meaning for each of
us and not everyone chooses to celebrate this day…but for me it is an opportunity
to stop and appreciate the women in my family as well as the many special women
friends I know who have made a difference in my life.

But then I asked myself what has my mom always said she
wanted for me… as a mother what do I want for my daughter? The list is
surprisingly similar! Here’s the SHORT version:

Mother's Day Brunch

I want more for her than I have; more happiness, success
at what she chooses, more comfort and less of the inevitable hard times that we
all endure at certain points in our lives.

I want her to acknowledge her wisdom and powerful
instincts; to know what to hang on to and what to let go of…sooner not later.

I want her to know that all of her dreams are out there
waiting for her and they are attainable when she chooses.

I want her to be fearless and to recognize what she views
as a mistake today may be the best decision she ever made in hindsight. Nothing
stays the same, what she wants today may not be what she wants later and
knowing this will make her life rich.  

I want her to know asking for help when needed is ‘strength’
and helping a fellow sister in need is often the best medicine for her own
wounds.

I want her to know it really doesn’t matter what others
think; she is one of a kind and perfect just the way she is.

I want her to have the wisdom to realize that taking care
of herself FIRST is not selfish but imperative and will afford all those around
her benefits as well.

Sound familiar? After making my list I realized… what my
mother wants for me and I for my daughter is also what I want for all the women
who touch my life whether they are mothers or not!!!  And really, as near as I can tell we women
are always mothering and nurturing someone or something…right?

HAPPY BELATED MOTHER’S DAY

To those of you who
are Mothers and

HAPPY BELATED WOMEN’S DAY

To those who are not

Either way, you are
indeed incredible and special.

A Sneak Peek

“When a woman becomes
her own best friend life is easier.”

~Diane Von Furstenberg~
And better for that matter!

With that in mind…Women In Transition Online invites you to
join us as we declare this a perfect time to slow down, take a look at what is
working in our lives and what we might add to make it even  BETTER; A time to brighten, enliven, renew and
revitalize!
We will be exploring ways to look and feel good inside and out. So be
sure and watch your email for the first in this rejuvenating mind and body
series.

P.S. By the way…how was your special day?  Please share your story in the comments section below, I’d love to hear!

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May 15, 2012 · Filed Under Happiness · Comments Off 

How to Stay Forever Young?

According to Diane Keaton in a recent AARP article “Take risks-do things you can’t imagine!” After supporting my 86 year old mother as she took her ‘huge risk’ I can honestly say I believe it’s true. It is so easy to say, just take a risk, do something completely out of your comfort range, something you can’t imagine but in reality this is often difficult to do. It was an awesome and enlightening experience to witness my mother’s journey.

The Decision

In July of 2011 after selling my house and most of my belongings I moved to California with my daughter, grandchildren and son in law. Although my decision was scary the thought of seeing my grandchildren and daughter only once or twice a year was simply not an option. For my Mom the choice was far more difficult. Of course she would miss us all but the home she lived in for the past 8 years was perfect for her in every way; size, affordable payment, in excellent shape and now decorated exactly like she wanted. It was close to the stores she frequented, doctors she trusted and within a five minute drive to each of our homes. She loved her home and had every intention to be there for the remainder of her life.

So when our decision to move and the desire for her to join us was announced she resolutely advised us that she would not, could not join us. The mental and physical energy to make such a big move would simply be too much for her. She believed she would be fine alone and perhaps we would find the time to visit a couple of times a year. She had not flown on an airplane in over 20 years and it was not something she would be willing to do.  Our discussions on the idea fell on deaf ears and the conversations were a litany of reasons for ‘why not to move.’

After 6 months of daily phone calls many of which found her teary and depressed and a number of lonely holidays one day she abruptly announced she was ready. Life without her family left her feeling depressed, negative and very unhappy. Although the thought of moving across state was overwhelming she was encouraged by my offer to assist her throughout the process. To my surprise she did not even want to make a preliminary visit to solidify her decision. Wow! Now that’s a decision! She wanted to immediately list her house for sale and while it was on the market she would come for a 4 or 5 day visit to check out the area and look for a new residence… Now I am thrilled but a little concerned.

Tables Turned

The decision seemed so abrupt. Would she change her mind half way through? Would she regret her decision? She seemed so adamant about staying in her comfort zone at this stage in her life. So I asked her point blank “Mom, are you sure this is what you want to do?”  Her answer surprised me but it was crystal clear.

Although she really didn’t want to move and leave what she knew life for the past 6 months was no life at all. She did not speak to anyone other than family phone calls for weeks. In addition she rarely left the house at all except to go to the grocery store once a week. That comfort she thought was so important became nothing more than a self imposed lonely prison. For the time she had left she wanted more. She wanted activities to look forward to, laughter and the warmth of her family. To my surprise she even spoke of new adventures!

The Journey

Isn’t it funny how in retrospect things seem to happen for the best? According to the research I had done it would take approximately 3 months to sell her home which would leave us ample time to research where she might want to live and make all the arrangements needed for a move to another state.  That did not happen. As if by magic my mother’s house sold approximately 4 hours after I listed it for sale leaving us 45 days to reduce her belongings, pack the remainder, purchase a new residence in California and move! Whew, a tall task for anyone but at 86? I have never seen her more alive, motivated and determined. There were moments of frustration and a number of minor setbacks that always worked out in the end but not once did I ever hear her question her decision or threaten to give up and stay where she was.

Our new beginning landed us in a quaint friendly little town a mere 10 minutes from the rush of traffic, strip centers, noise and family; Loomis, California where “A small town is like a big family,” population 6430.

Where "A small town is like a big family"

Conclusion

We will all face challenging changes many times during our life’s journey. The longer we live the more changes we’ll face. Some of these are expected, though often dreaded and some are not in our control.

It has been said and I believe that people only change when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change. What about you? Are you in a situation that is increasingly more painful, but you fear the future? Or, have you had a sudden, uninvited change thrust on you? If so, here are some important facts to remember from the Conquering Change Special Report that may help you more easily accept the changes you experience.

  • Change is the normal process of life. Life is not possible without change.
  • It is human nature to resist change. Most of us like what is familiar and predictable.
  • As normal as change is, it is normal to resist it. You are not wrong, bad, or stubborn simply because you resist change.
  • It is common to fear the unknown.
  • Change can cause us to question our long held beliefs and values.
  • Moving through change can be uncomfortable and feel awkward, and is the only way to move forward.
  • Refusing to change does not mean that the world won’t change around you. Refusing to change means you’ll be left behind.
  • And to end on a reassuring note, the ability to change, adapt and move forward often offers us new and wonderful opportunities beyond our imagination.

 

“Sometimes you’ll hear, ‘People don’t change.’ This is true more often than it ought to be, but listen again: ‘People don’t change.’ It says ‘don’t,’ not ‘can’t.’ ”

~Victoria Moran~

 

Ahhhh, now that’s beautiful!

 

 

Go out today and do something you’ve always wanted to do but never made the time or found the courage for. Perhaps you were waiting for ‘when the time was right.’ Do it now or at least take the first bold step. You might be surprised at the ripple effect of this action. It’s like throwing a pebble into a pond and experiencing the resulting concentric circles from the locus point of where the pebble hit the water; growing, expanding, changing and discovering.

Make the call, order the information or take the class…take the step. Then share your experience – what ripples did you experience? We’d love to hear.

 

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May 1, 2012 · Filed Under Life Changes · Comments Off 

It’s BACK; The Self Improvement Gifts Giveaway 6.

Have I got some exciting news for you today! It’s BACK!

 

I want to let you know about a Self Improvement site that will allow you to download 100’s of self help gifts, including mine! And yes…it is absolutely FREE!

 Yep, you heard me right…for FREE!

 All you have to do is go here: http://selfimprovementgifts6.com/go/1203

 So, if you have found yourself going round in circles time and time again just trying to improve things in your life, but find yourself getting nowhere fast, then I’m pleased to tell you that it is now easily within your reach to change things during 2012.

 

HOWEVER, just like anything in life there is a downside here – BUT don’t panic because if you act fast you won’t miss out.

 The Self Improvement Gifts Giveaway 6 hosted by Stephanie Mulac, Carolyn Hansen and Dr. Joe Rubino will only be open for a VERY LIMITED TIME… only a few weeks in fact!

 So if you are serious about making 2012 the BEST year ever, then you need to jump on board as soon as the event opens on the 5th of January. (HEY,THAT’S TODAY!)

 Don’t delay because the doors close for good a few weeks later.

 Here’s just a small sample of the 100s of gifts that are available for you to download instantly once the event goes live:

 

* Affirmations For A Wealthy Mindset Audio – Elaine Lockard

* Rewire Your Brain For Success – Gene Anger

* Self Care For Body & Mind – Mari Lyn Harris

* A Beginners Guide To Running – Paul Klein

* Millionaire Goal Setting Secrets – Amanda Stephen

* Create Your Own Self Improvements Products – Keith Purkiss

* And Much Much More!

 

If you are ready to start the year off right, which I’m sure you are, and tackle EVERYTHING that is holding you back from moving forward in life, or if you just want to change things because you are looking for a sense of inner peace, then you need to go here RIGHT NOW:

 http://selfimprovementgifts6.com/go/1203

You know, this is the 6th Self Improvement Gifts Giveaway event and each year it just gets BIGGER and BETTER!

This REALLY is the largest collection of POWERFUL self help and personal growth gifts you will find on the Internet EVER!

Before you go I just have one question for you…

 

Now that you know about this potentially life changing giveaway, are you going to make the most of the opportunity, or are you going to sit back and let 2012 be a repeat of 2011?

 

The choice is yours, but I know what I’m going to do and that is FIGHT BACK and live life the way I want to….Are you with me?

 

Hope to see you there :)

To your hopes, dreams and possibilities,

Deborah

 

http://selfimprovementgifts6.com/go/1203

 

P.S. By the way…Now that you’re ready to life your life YOUR WAY…you still have time to take advantage of the 40% off sale on BOTH of the Mastermind Groups. So this year gather and conspire with your fellow women of a certain age and make life your way happen!

P.S.S. The entire 5 week Adventure Fest Boot Camp Mastermind including all the weekly strategies, helpful tools, suggestions sheets with tons of ideas to pick and choose from and spark your creativity, email support on our private password protected community page that I will administer as well as a group weekly community call that I also administer is less than $18.00 a week! OR the 3 month Mini Mastermind for $15.00 a week!! Take advantage of this Fabulous Sales… Join us…the second half of your life should be fun! 

 

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January 4, 2012 · Filed Under Self improvement · Comments Off 

Important Note for The New Year!

Happy New Year!

 

Well, here it is! A brand new year…”2012” has finally arrived and with it the opportunity to ‘start anew.’ Even though anytime is the right time for a new beginning there is something symbolic and special about the beginning of a new year. To me it feels like receiving a brand new journal filled with empty pages and a set of colored pens!

Yesterday I stopped into a restaurant to spend a little time alone pondering the forthcoming year. With my new journal and pens in hand I found myself busily scratching out notes and ideas for the year when it occurred to me there was an interesting slogan on the drink cup I was mindlessly staring at…

 

It said:

“HALF FULL…HALF EMPTY…

EITHER WAY, IT’S TIME FOR A REFILL.

 

JUST THE WAY IT IS”

 

As I began to think about this slogan I took a little time to review my notes and discovered something interesting. Nowhere in my notes was there any mention of Self Nurturing and Taking Time to Replenish.

 

It’s such a common thing we all do, isn’t it? And it’s such an essential step in creating a life full of meaning, joy, and abundance. Yet we seldom remember to include it in our plans or consider it a goal that needs to be written down on our ‘goals list.’  So many times it winds up be considered later or separately…you know, when all else is accomplished or at least well on its way.

 

This surprised me most because it is one of the bigger subjects we discuss in both of the Mastermind Mentoring Groups I host and several of the strategies we work on are about this very subject! It is so ingrained in us. Many of us have spent the bulk of our lives neglecting ourselves focused on taking care of everyone and everything else even the thought of self-nurturance results in feelings of guilt.

So for those of you who are in the midst of planning your New Year…I hope you will make it a point to include discovering and satisfying your own needs and desires on your list. Not only will your life be fuller and more joyous, your friends and loved ones will reap the benefit. Make yourself a priority! You will have so much more to give others!

So here’s to you…your hopes, dreams and possibilities.

There are Great things to come!

It’s going to be an amazing 2012!!

Deborah

 

P.S. Anyone interested in exploring your possibilities in a Mastermind Mentoring GroupTHE 40% OFF SALE HAS BEEN EXTENDED TO JANUARY 10, 2012! If you’re interested in a little preview join us on January 6th, 2012 for “How to Get a New Perspective on the Rest of Your Life” Teleseminar/Discussion. These discussions are always intimate, open and inspiring! Join us!   

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January 2, 2012 · Filed Under Motivation · Comments Off 

Holiday Wishes for you!

I know you are getting a huge amount of email but I wanted to wish you all a very special holiday. I hope you are enjoying this season as much as I am and have found the time to make some special memories.  I was at a holiday gathering recently and had a wonderful conversation with someone who was of the Jewish faith. He said he loved Christmas even though he celebrated differently. As we talked we both agreed that there is something magical about this time of year no matter what your faith. It is a time when the majority of people are surrounded and in contact with friends, family and the happiest of thoughts seem to come to mind so easily; generosity, gratitude and kindness. Call it Law of Attraction if you like but these uplifting feelings really are contagious! With that said, I don’t think I could express my feelings any better than D.M.Dellinger:

 

“This is my wish for you: peace of mind, prosperity through the year, happiness that multiplies, health for you and yours, fun around every corner, energy to chase your dreams, joy to fill your holidays!”

 

 Happy Holidays!

 

I would also like to thank you for being a part of this community and allowing me to share some of your time! As the end of 2011 grows near many of us will find our thoughts wandering to 2012 and to our hopes, dreams and expectations for the coming year. If you are one of these here’s a holiday gift for you…   

 

My Annual Holiday Sale Starts TODAY – Save 40 -50% On All My Products and Programs Between Now and Monday, January 2, 2012!

 

If you’ve been thinking 2012 is the year you are ready to take a bold step on behalf of your dreams now is the time to invest in yourself and SAVE.

 

 

(This special 40-50% sale only applies to purchases using the full-pay option. Your Savings is automatically deducted from your total at check out).

 

There are plenty of options to choose from:

 

Adventure Fest Boot Camp Workshop Mastermind III 40% Off!

Mini Mastermind Mentoring Experience 40% Off!

21 Day Attitude Adjustment Course 50% Off!

HOW TO GET A NEW PERSPECTIVE ON THE REST OF YOUR LIFE Teleseminar/Discussion FREE!

  

 

So if you are ready to make it your business to discover what it is you truly love in life and get started doing those things right now CLICK HERE and take advantage of theses incredible SAVINGS but HURRY! This sale ends on Monday, January 2nd, 2012!

 

To your hopes, dreams and possibilities,

Deborah

 

P.S. Oh, and don’t forget…Gift Certificates are now available!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

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December 23, 2011 · Filed Under Special announcement · Comments Off 

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Deborah Hayes, CTA Life Coach

Empowering women to live a life of consequence, a life without regrets that is your own unique version of the life you love. About Deborah

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